Is it a mistake if T causes P to split inside?

This question is for you who know something about "splitting" when someone is BPD or schizoid. Maybe some of you have been through this.
Recently my therapy has been deep into ambivalent transference with T. My inner child feels she's a good therapist/mom, but also very afraid of any dependence.
T is modern psychodynamic therapist and been very good with me until last week. I'm regressed to early childhood and T often explains that regression and dependence is OK before growing independent naturally in therapy. My adult self does good in everyday life but inner kid is a mess!
But last week, T began to talk up the independence side for longer than usual. It made me terribly anxious. Suddenly, overnight, T has become split into two separate therapists: A bait-n-switch cruel therapist and a good-mom therapist. They are two separate therapists now in different places in my mind. They don't get near each other, and are kept in separate rooms it seems. But I feel much better with it that way.
I would like to know if this splitting of T is something good to happen, or do you think it was a mistake T made?

It seems like you have a good therapist. The split shows your positive progress.

here in my location this is considered to be completely normal. even normal people will see those in their lives as good and bad and keep each "side" of that person separate.

when i was having this problem with my treatment provider I sat down and told her what was happening. thats when she told me treatment providers are supposed to promote independence and not promote regression and dependence on the treatment provider. theres ethics laws about this kind of thing, that she could lose her job or have to stop working with me. that her job was to foster an attitude and atmosphere that included more independence, more staying present in the moment. (back then they did not know besides this normal splitting I had DID which is different than the problem in your post)

she told me that its ok sometimes to split people in my life into two categories ...good and evil... and regress to a childish state of mind but too much is not good for a treatment provider nor the clients.

That in every day life there is always something that has a good side and a bad side to every person and every thing. the trick is recognizing it and dealing with it.

then she explained that our relationship was not like my parents, friends and family. it was a business relationship. she cared a lot for me but she could not be the nice mom all the time. she had to do her job and sometimes therapy is not so fun and therapists cant always be fun. we had work to do and it was time to stop or slow down the dependence and regression and get to work on my becoming an independent fully functioning adult. that was why I was in therapy right...to learn how to take care of me and my problems. So lets get to it. if you need a hug or cuddle just ask for it, thats not going to change. what will is how we deal with these times, besides the cuddle, hug we will be talking about why you felt small, why you felt you needed a cuddle\hug.

my suggestion would be to talk with the therapist. they can explain to you why they made this change of talking longer about independence, regression and dependence. Im wondering if like my treatment provider yours is feeling like therapy is off track and you may have become too dependent and regressing too much or more than when you entered therapy. therapy is supposed to make things better not worse. just my thoughts.

Thanks for your thoughts. I wasn't sure anyone would relate to this. It's a hard subject. Some balance between dependence/independence is the eventual goal, I'm sure. Getting there is so touchy, and seems to bounce all around!.

Oh hugs!

Yes I remember my therapist saying, 'Sorry to split you up like that!' And gosh it was a real tough time in therapy, you'll get through it!