[sinking]

I've lost my HOME.
i do have a house to live in but i've lost my HOME.
how do you get back that HOME feeling when you have lost it?

I think it starts with 'making' it your own. Do something unique to it marking it as your own space. I just had a move forced upon me. It wasn't until I got my pictures up that it at all felt liveable.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Sinking

Not sure whether this is about something happening to make where you live feel less like HOME or a move from the place which was HOME to you (perhaps I'm thinking too much into it )
BUT.............
Can you put more "stamps" of your identity or your life on it???
Things like...........having framed photos of people who have been/are important to you, or "good times", even a collage of things important/meaningful to you or pictures from magazines that help you feel good/relaxed/ at peace.........whatever; perhaps you could check online for quotes which may resonate positively with you about e.g. "belonging".........write them down and frame them; maybe some decor that says "you".........painting a wall even; if money is short maybe you could drop into some charity shops for items that say "you" even older things that remind you of "better days"...........; if you have any personal things, meaningful to you, stashed away maybe make more space to display them.........a shelf or something...........????
Just a few thoughts................



Alison

[ishopeatsea]

I felt like this not so long ago, that the place I lived in didn't feel like home.

I know it's cheesy, but just remember that "home is where the heart is". That is to say, home is about more than the physical place you live - home can be found in your family, or your friends, can be found in your favourite music or sports or TV shows, in the things you take everywhere with you, or the rituals and schedules you follow.

Basically, the feeling of 'home' is about three things: familiarity, safety, and belonging. Seek out these three things. When your surroundings feel safe and familiar and like you belong there, that's when you feel at home.

..........Can you put more "stamps" of your identity or your life on it???

Wow! I couldn't agree more!

In addition to putting up pictures and placing nicknacks about that remind me of a sense of coziness, safety, and hominess I also sat down and made a list of positive things about the change (ie. my new place is closer to my grocery, the floors and cupboards will be easier to clean).

It is not necessary to leave memories behind. Sometimes we can bring them with us. Again, I really liked the suggestions of the posters above - especially the examples of getting creative with some inspirational decorating.

[sinking]

Thank you all. i just keep missing that HOME feeling....

Sinking - how long did you live in your former home for?

[avlady]

yes i agree home is where the heart is. you can make your house home to you after you get used to it awhile. putting the pictures up and other knic knacks around can help too, like others said.

[sinking]

i lived for 32 years in my birth home, now 2 in another one, but it feels like i was a HOME just yesterday...

[pegasus]

What did your 'home' have that your current living space doesn't have now? Fill your current living space with mementoes and memories (pictures, photos, special things that mean a lot to you) that make you feel safe.