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Old Feb 03, 2016, 02:23 AM
Fia1384 Fia1384 is offline
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As long as I've been alive, my dad has been irrational at best and impossible to deal with at worst. I've scanned the 15 common Defense Mechanisms page, and these following mechanisms correspond strongly with his behavior:
Denial
Acting Out
Projection
Repression
Displacement
He also could have some possible issues with Anger Management, and has himself admitted to struggles with Anxiety.
I'm not just some teenager complaining about her horrible parents. My mom has noticed this too, and said she, "spent years wondering if I was going insane, if he was just playing mind games," because of his ability to project his own behaviors onto others without a hint of doubt in his own mind that said other person was the one doing these behaviors, not him. (Eg. Stubborn, disrespectful, inconsiderate, short-tempered, etc.)
What do I do? Wait it out until I finish high school and move out? That was the plan, but I don't know if I can take this anymore. Please advise.
-Fia

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Old Feb 03, 2016, 09:15 AM
IceCreamKid IceCreamKid is offline
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Keep in mind that technically your father is an adult. So let him be responsible for his own behaviors.

One of the best ways for you to cope is to get involved outside the home if possible in fulfilling activities that hopefully will give you good experience for your own future. My brother coped with our horrible home life by taking a part time job and by running track. Can you do something like that? If you cannot and you are mostly "stuck" at home, then developing hobbies that keep you busy and not focusing on your father's poor behavior is the next best thing.

I will say this: Part of the reason why adults continue with obnoxious behaviors is because they are enabled to. Wherever possible, don't be the audience for your father acting out.
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Old Feb 03, 2016, 10:32 AM
Onward2wards Onward2wards is offline
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Thanks for the link, I found it informative.
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