[Kocsisks]

I've posted in the relationship thread about this but I thought maybe I could ask for your guys thoughts. I was just diagnosed on Monday with obsessive-compulsive disorder general anxiety disorder and bipolar 2 disorder. I just started my medication Monday night as soon as I could get it filled at the pharmacy. One of my many issues is that I have a hard time letting things go. If I make a mistake, I have a hard time dealing with it and letting it go. I will dwell on it for days even. Is this normal for my disorder? Last night my boyfriend and I got into a conversation that upset me on something that he had said. Even though we resolved it and he sees from my point of view, I can't get it out of my head. I keep telling myself to let it go and that we were easel and that we resolved it but I still keep thinking about it. Is this normal for this type of disorder? How do I stop thinking and obsessing about things like this? Why can't I let things go? What suggestions do you all have on letting things go because I'm kind of at a loss right now.

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[Kathryn01]

I think letting things go is a challenge for most people, which means it's even more difficult for those of us with anxiety, OCD, etc.

Therapy has helped me a lot because it gave me a different perspective on the things I would obsess over. Medication can be great because constant worry just turns into a much more manageable type of worrying. (At least, that has been my experience.) Meditation can help too because it can be an exercise in watching your thoughts without engaging with them. I know, it sounds a little strange. But it can be great e.g., when I'm meditating, an old argument might pop up, but I just acknowledge the thought without replaying the argument and reliving it. Meditation takes a LOT of practice, but it can be good for the sort of thing you're describing.

There are still things still I can't quite let go of, but I don't obsess over them. (Not very often anyway.) It seems like the trick is to try out a variety of coping mechanisms and use the ones that resonate with you.

It's good that you're on here looking for advice and taking steps toward getting well. I hope you're able to continue that journey and ultimately find what you need so these thoughts don't interfere with your life quite so much.

[reeserules779]

Originally Posted by Kocsisks

I've posted in the relationship thread about this but I thought maybe I could ask for your guys thoughts. I was just diagnosed on Monday with obsessive-compulsive disorder general anxiety disorder and bipolar 2 disorder. I just started my medication Monday night as soon as I could get it filled at the pharmacy. One of my many issues is that I have a hard time letting things go. If I make a mistake, I have a hard time dealing with it and letting it go. I will dwell on it for days even. Is this normal for my disorder? Last night my boyfriend and I got into a conversation that upset me on something that he had said. Even though we resolved it and he sees from my point of view, I can't get it out of my head. I keep telling myself to let it go and that we were easel and that we resolved it but I still keep thinking about it. Is this normal for this type of disorder? How do I stop thinking and obsessing about things like this? Why can't I let things go? What suggestions do you all have on letting things go because I'm kind of at a loss right now.

Hi I'm Reese, and I'm glad to hear that you're taking your medication and trying to get some control over your disorder. I feel that needs to be applauded because so often that does not happen. Now the reason you are holding on to what your boyfriend said may or may not be associated with your disorder. It depends what was said. Some things hit us at our core and nothing is going to change that reaction EVER. Not meds, not threats, NOTHING! There are just some things we as individuals are not "OK" with. You really need to look at the specific details of the event. Now letting go is an area I struggle in less than I used to, so all I can do is share with you what has worked for me and you can take what you need and leave the rest. "If It Doesn't Apply. Let It FLY!!" Have you heard that before? I really like that quote. If you can benefit and or change your position in a positive way by holding on to things that cause you stress then by all means pick those problems back up and keep willing the **** out of them. In the hope that your gonna be able to somehow repair things in the same manner you broke them. Now because sarcasm annoys me too I will tell you when this was said to me it ticked me off.!! THE NERVE!! Obviously my problems arent MY fault. Are they? You see when I stepped back and looked, really looked at my part. ONLY my part. I could see that I could be the person that wants the best for ME! When you hold on too tight you squeeze all the good stuff out and the key to life is moderation so all of anything ultimately will be a bad thing. LETTING GO is the secret to peace. True Love is reflected best in NON-Attatchment. If you really love something you dont want to hold on and hinder their path. The secret of Life is Letting Go. The secret of Love is Letting it Show Youre right your mom is probably being a c*nt and a totally invading your space. Until you have control of yourself honestly ***** her yeah she is still your mom and you will obviously have to interact so because you know this you can prepare for it. By simply making the decision to keep your side of the street clean, meaning, DON'T be a smartass, Respect her. Not as your mom but as a human being. Don't be rude. See now the fact that you are aware of the issue you have with Letting Go something can be done to try to change it. That's the good news the downside is that once you become aware of something you see it more often. I tell you this because I don't want you to get discouraged. It just looks like its happening more often. It isn't you're just seeing it now. When you know who you are and you live for yourself everyday on purpose without apology you will be so much happier. Letting Go is hard but, really Holding On is a lot harder.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by kindness

Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts: 5 Ways to Move On | World of Psychology

Kindness, I just can't thank you enough for posting that link to DocJohn's article. It helped me tremendously. I just spent the last hour or so writing and releasing my pain through the advice in that article. I feel so very much at peace for the first time in forever. I thank you from the bottom of my heart! I can finally live my life now!!

You see, I too was bogged down by pain from a past attempt at a relationship, and thinking that I was over it, but really I wasn't. Now I can say I am truly able to let go. Thanks again Kindness, your helpful advice was a lifesaver for me.

#5 Forgiveness?

There are some people I will not forgive, and I don't know if I ever will.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

#5 Forgiveness?

There are some people I will not forgive, and I don't know if I ever will.

I can understand that some people do things that are unforgivable, and in turn are unforgivable themselves. Maybe my past hurts didn't run deep enough to be deemed unforgivable because I was able to forgive and move on.

[Thunder Bow]

Your mind is going to process things, that is normal. You can not stop your mind from doing that. Anxiety can amplify things, but you seem to be behaving within normal parameters.