[dancinglady]

We keep talking about lonely feelings, being alone, not fitting in with other people.

For the relationship successful people what are your steps when wanting a friend. Please make it a step by step plan.

Thanks

I have found that using the phone, social media, stores, errands helps me stay connected and open dialogue for further contact with others. We often have to push through our fears for an invitation to do stuff with others. You can join a group: book club at the library, bird watching, hiking club, walking club, etc. Often in the community paper they have stuff that others can join to interact and build healthy relationships with others. Pursing this is a great way to start. I hope this helps, tc

I am the opposite. I need a real connection and avoid relying upon social media and texting for making and keeping communication and contact.

I find aquaintances through my support group. I have recently begun to volunteer and have made some aquaintances from that too. Many of my aquaintances have been made through existing friendships.

I don't have a plan. Usually though a conversation is sparked which culminates in a plan to grab a coffee.

[CoffeeLove]

This is a good question and one to which I also would like very very much to know the answer, over coming loneliness when one finds social interaction terrifying is a terrible thing to have to confront.

You have to get out and get involved. Find something/someplace you enjoy and an outlet for pursuing that. Go regularly and just talk to people, get to know them informally. Give it some time for those informal interactions to develop into something more, eventually you will find a few you click with and spend more time interacting with.