[jordangiuseppe]

What do you think are some of the best ways to overcome the feeling of loneliness and to become emotionally secure?

[Skeezyks]

Hello jordangiuseppe: This is something I struggle with. I am pretty-much entirely solitary by choice. But I still experience loneliness from time-to-time. For me, the most important thing is to keep busy doing things I enjoy doing. I walk allot doing walking meditation, walking my dog, & just walking. I'm also a home bread baker. And I spend a lot of time here on PC! When I'm busy doing something I enjoy, I'm content...

[Thunder Bow]

If you are feeling depressed, and it over whelmed you, seek some counseling.

[Quarter life]

I live in my own orbit most of the time jordangiuseppe...and I know for a certainly that 99.9% of people care little about what I have to say or what I do...they care more about their own lives. I strive to be social when it is called for...but apart from that I spend my time on worthwhile pursuits that don't need others approval. We can't wait around for others to validate, laud or honour us...we must do that for ourselves. I strive every day to find little chunks of joy…and this is more than enough for me.

[beeblove]

Originally Posted by jordangiuseppe

What do you think are some of the best ways to overcome the feeling of loneliness and to become emotionally secure?

I begin to think/meditate on the truth.

Feelings come and go, and this will too.
It's okay that I'm not okay.
I'm okay even though I feel this way.
We are all here doing life together.

I usually go for a walk and or get out in nature somehow even if i just sit down. That makes me feel connected and keeps me grounded but sometimes it doesn't work and that's when I'm in a bad place. That's when I usually turn to sleep

Originally Posted by jordangiuseppe

What do you think are some of the best ways to overcome the feeling of loneliness and to become emotionally secure?

I have found the best way to pick myself up is to pick someone else up.

[EdgyUsername]

I deal with it everyday, and i'm not great at coping with it, but i do know that talking to my one close friend online usually perks me up a bit..even if it is just a little bit for a little while. Of course if you don't have anyone like that, try and have a look around online, search up things that interest you and find a hub for it, maybe you'll make some new friends who have the same interests.

I started volunteering

[phyllis78]

I will speak to the loneliness...

Have you thought about investing in someone else's life? Perhaps you could volunteer at a retirement home, or at an animal shelter?
Perhaps making a small difference in someone's (or an animals) life will assist them and you at the same time. Like was said before, picking someone else up, will pick you up.

Or giving back to the community by helping those less fortunate?

Or even simply building a habit of daily visiting your local diner or coffee shop?
When you develop that habit (even if its just for coffee) you start developing a repore with the wait staff and any of the regulars that go.

Or perhaps find a small group of people who enjoy activities that you do. And if it's a weekly event, you will look forward to it!

[Precious Jenna]

Originally Posted by EdgyUsername

I deal with it everyday, and i'm not great at coping with it, but i do know that talking to my one close friend online usually perks me up a bit..even if it is just a little bit for a little while. Of course if you don't have anyone like that, try and have a look around online, search up things that interest you and find a hub for it, maybe you'll make some new friends who have the same interests.

I also started having problems when I was 11 and it got worse and worse. I suffer from Anxiety and depression. After a couple years experiencing different medication I found Zoloft and Clonazapam (klonopin) to help. I've been on those meds for over 10 years. I still feel depressed and don't make friends because I don't want to go do anything. I don't like to flare up my anxiety. Honestly I just want to die! But I'm not one to kill myself I do care about my family. I'm 25 and scared for change. I'd rather die than be taken out of my comfort zone. I have no clue how I'm going to cope the next few months when my life takes a life changing turn. I choose not to have friends. I don't want to be completely alone. Meaning I don't want to live alone. As everyone says, its all in my head right?

May be by solving the causes of loneliness?

I think a certain amount of boredome is connected to loneliness. Hence why those above suggest finding ways to stay busy.

[lookinforhelp]

I have given up on trying to meet people and trying to be social. I have tried most all of the above suggestions and they have not helped. I started water aerobics, I have family that don't want to deal with my mental health. I live with my 10yr old Labrador ret. who is only reason for being alive. I haven't been able to work, since 2004. My depression and other mental health issues are considered treatment resistant. So my depression never goes away anymore, at times I can feel a little less depressed. ECT worked for a few years but now Memory loss is becoming a major issue. My psychologist is the only human that I have any trust in. My Labrador is my service dog and my best friend. I'm 58 and have dealt with this most of those years. I think I had about 20 good normal years in between recurrence.. I just keep trying to get used to being alone.

[Rabbit1256]

In my experience, the best way to overcome the feeling of loneliness is not to be idle. Any type of activity that you can get engaged in would be healthy behavior when you are feeling lonely. I live alone and do not have many friends. I have found, in my recovery, that as long as I am actively doing something I can be alone without feeling lonely.

I clean, listen to music, have recently picked up coloring, I organize things in my apartment, go for a walk, or basically anything productive I can think of to do. I just joined this site two days ago. Looking around the site and offering support in my responses and posting my own issues and asking for advise – is just one more thing I found can combat the feeling of loneliness when I am alone.

Remember, being alone (unable to solve without seeking out another person) and feeling lonely (able to solve by yourself) are two very different things.