[lokisgirl49]

I could really use some advice. My younger brother is 16 years old, and recently he's been acting and doing things which are quite upsetting to me. It all started when I was in bed one morning, and I wasn't completely awake, so I was pretty groggy. I felt something moving up my leg towards my butt,(my skirt had somehow gotten flipped up while I was sleeping), and rolled over to see my brother standing over me. He hastily jumped back and pretended to be doing something else. I just brushed it off thinking I had imagined it, but a few minutes later I rolled over again, and my brother was still in my room, only he had moved closer to my bed again. I told him to go out, and puzzled over the event throughout the day, but eventually I just brushed it off again. A few days later, he said he wanted to watch a movie with me in my room, so I agreed thinking nothing of it. Well, I fell asleep during the movie, and once again, I woke up to the feeling of something moving up my thigh, underneath my shorts. I jerked awake and angrily asked my brother what he was doing, but he acted like he barely awake, and rolled over. I went back to sleep, but it happened again during the night. My heart started to pound like crazy, and I was freaking out. I didn't really sleep the rest of the night. I haven't slept in the same bed with him since. The last thing he did which really, really upset me was a few days ago. I had on a knee length sundress and I went to the kitchen to grab a drink.For some reason, he was standing really close to me, and would move whenever I moved. I turned to face the counter, and then something told me to turn back around. My brother was crouched behind me, holding his phone facing upwards, directly underneath my dress. I think he was attempting to take a picture of my crotch. Once I turned around, he jerked back up and I angrily demanded to know what he was doing, and he just looked at me in a really weird, sheepish way. Since the incident, I've been avoiding him, and whenever I do interact with him, I get really pissed off and aggravated. The whole situation just makes very angry, but I wish I wasn't, because we are very close, and I really don't want this to ruin our relationship. I haven't confronted him about it, and I have no idea what to do.

[Thunder Bow]

Best to report this to your parents. He has a problem. Also do not sleep in the same room with him.

[Skeezyks]

Hello lokisgirl49: I see this is your first post, here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks!

At 16 years of age, your brother's male hormones are raging! This may be nothing more than him not being able to control himself... yet. On the other hand, his actions are completely inappropriate! Do not spend time with him in your bedroom, his bedroom, or anyone else's bedroom. Continue to maintain a respectful distance from him in other areas of the house. Let him know, in no uncertain terms that there are boundaries he must not cross. And then enforce those boundaries without exception.

Sooner or later, you may have to discuss, with your parents, what is going on. I know you wrote that you & your brother have been close & you don't want to ruin your relationship. So, perhaps you don't want to involve your parents right away. However, if this sort of behavior continues, or even escalates, it may be necessary. Don't wait too long. I wish you well...