Recognizing self-pity

Any got any tips for recognizing when you are just wallowing in self pity, and then pulling yourself out of it?

Self-pity? Or depression?

In a way one does enjoy self-pity.

I guess just... appreciate what you have. Some perspective. Not focusing on every tiny little hurt and trying to deal with the problems you can deal with, accepting the others.

Sometimes you need avoid those who enable you in self-pity. Sadly, many do mistake enabling and bring you down for being supportive.

"wallowing in self-pity"

I think the duration matters like procrastination, and I say keep the self-pity. Since you might be wallowing in it, you could try to understand that by learning every aspect of it. Anything and everything could be making the connections for the understanding of the word, how have you learned it? Who did it come from? In what moment of your daily life, do you feel that? You could make suspects like the season, the time of the day, everything you know could be hints to navigate you to unpuzzle the make up of the word "self-pity." You are to keep it, so you need to drive it, deeper if you have to.

Questioning the question, question your assumption, your understanding of yourself.

I was alone in this long long depression years ago, I don't use the d-word anymore, I prefer regular language, a survival language. I don't know the others.

Hey, I appreciate that you're taking some out of my post.

Here's my 2 cents on top of the 90-100, it could've been lower than that on that day. Anyways, what I meant was that it is your self-pity, you are capable of inflating or deflating it, or you could simply observe and learn how to use it. I need it too sometimes, it could be connected to many other things in me, like embarrassment? I didn't know how it was affecting me, nobody was there to teach me how to use it. Eventually, it'll propels you in life, and you hold your self-pity when you need it, think of an aka pella singer, so much pressure on a stage, I got no more things to say, dream on.

Is this something that comes from rumination? If this is the case, remove the trigger of it. ie, stop writing in a journal if you find your are ruminating on how bad things are, etc. Change the routine to your day if you do this at certain times.

Schedule yourself one activity that gets you out each week. It could be a walk to a cafe or even just hang out at the mall and people watch.

Give yourself one task you otherwise wouldn't do each week - and reward yourself for doing it (for me this was a portion of house cleaning)

This is a start.

Self-pity strikes me as when you assume everyone is against you, you can't do anything, etc., etc. What you can do when you feel this way is challenge the assumption. One good way to do that is to write down the distorted thought and then write out a challenge to it. For example, your distorted thought might be 'the whole world hates me!' Then you challenge it by saying 'the WHOLE world?? the world doesn't know me'and try to bring your thoughts to a more rational place.