[NotDeadYet]

I've had this problem for quite some time now with my self esteem/image, but its not the typical self esteem/image. Of course is is bad and can often times leave me feeling like ****. I can often times get and inflated ego. It can often times leave me feeling like i am superior then others, often god like. This can often leave me feeling like **** if my expectations aren't meet, when my friends dont respond to me or ignore me it leaves me angry, cause I'm obviously someone they should want to talk to, right? And when this feeling finally crashes down it can it can leave me feeling like **** and expecting everything to go wrong/everyone to hate me. Obviously my friends hate me if they dont respond and they are definitely talking bad about me behind my back. Or i can just feel apathy about everything. I dont know why i experience these thing, and it makes keeping friends hard when you just want to explode on them.
Does anyone have any advice to combat this?

[MickeyCheeky]

Have you been diagnosed? It could be the result of a mental illness.. I think there's something similar, but I'm not quite sure.. do you see a therapist?

[Thunder Bow]

I think Donald Trump feels this way. Are you like him? If some do not respond, it does not mean that they hate you.

[NotDeadYet]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

I think Donald Trump feels this way. Are you like him? If some do not respond, it does not mean that they hate you.

I really don't want to be compared to Donald Trump, if you don't mind. And I know the rational side of me says that, but I can't shake the feeling that they do hate me. Especially if they are online and don't respond.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Have you been diagnosed? It could be the result of a mental illness.. I think there's something similar, but I'm not quite sure.. do you see a therapist?

No not yet, I still need to set up an appointment with one. I don't like having to admit I have problems sometimes and I fear a therapist would judge me.

[Thunder Bow]

On line is the worst place to expect a response, let alone take a non-response personally. Remember the internet is like the phone, it is easy to hang up on someone.

[avlady]

People today are different than they were psycically and mentally. the thing i say about your friends is where are you? just come out and ask jokingly this question to start up a conversation. if they don't reply i wouldn't take that seriously until you have heard from at least one of them and you can catch up about the others lives if they keep each other in touch and ask them to please keep you in the loop from now on.good luck

[NotDeadYet]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

On line is the worst place to expect a response, let alone take a non-response personally. Remember the internet is like the phone, it is easy to hang up on someone.

Originally Posted by avlady

People today are different than they were psycically and mentally. the thing i say about your friends is where are you? just come out and ask jokingly this question to start up a conversation. if they don't reply i wouldn't take that seriously until you have heard from at least one of them and you can catch up about the others lives if they keep each other in touch and ask them to please keep you in the loop from now on.good luck

I was talking about Skype, it's a messaging app where you can see if someone is online or not. Like it states that they are on Skype. Also why wouldn't they talk to me if they talk to each other, do they not care about me. Why wouldn't they? I know they don't care, no matter how hard I try to talk they never respond, what's the point? I can't take a non-response not personally. There's too much to say, and I'm not feeling to good right now.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I don't go on social media for that exact reason.
It does feel terrible and purposeful when people seem to be purposefully ignoring you
Some things I try to remember when I start feeling like this.
1. I have no clue what other people are actually doing thinking or what their intentions are.
2. If someone does not respond to me right away or in a bit, it most likely has to do with them..not me.
Maybe they are busy, maybe they just left the app on open, maybe they always are signed in but rarely on, maybe they walked away for a while, maybe they are dealing with something they feel is more pressing atm, maybe they just don't feel like chatting right now, Most definitely they are focused on their $#!T first!..most people are.
3. I did not always feel this way.
Idk how old you are, but I am not ancient and I can remember a time before social media and smartphones cellphones where if I tried to call someone and they did not answer..I did not take it personally...nor did I expect that for any reason were they required to pick up or call me back the moment they say that I called..nope mostly I just figured they were not home, busy doing something else, talking to someone else, just didn't feel like talking at all...and almost never took it personally!
3. It really isn't any different..the only thing that has changed is our perception skewed by the overwhelming amount of information our current technology provides..and it is not all good! It is so convenient and helpful in many many ways..but it terrible for our self esteem!..
My advice is when you start feeling like this...take a tech break! Turn off your devices or sign out of your apps. Set them to do not disturb, walk away from them and go do something else for a while! Watch TV, read a book, go for a walk, take up a hobby, any nontech related activity you enjoy.. I think you will feel a bit better after.

And if there are some people who truly NEVER answer or respond like not even once a month...They are not your friends..axe em.
My best friend and I can go over a month without talking..but it doesn't feel like a slight.
Hope something I wrote helps
-LITW

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by Lost_in_the_woods

I don't go on social media for that exact reason.
It does feel terrible and purposeful when people seem to be purposefully ignoring you
Some things I try to remember when I start feeling like this.
1. I have no clue what other people are actually doing thinking or what their intentions are.
2. If someone does not respond to me right away or in a bit, it most likely has to do with them..not me.
Maybe they are busy, maybe they just left the app on open, maybe they always are signed in but rarely on, maybe they walked away for a while, maybe they are dealing with something they feel is more pressing atm, maybe they just don't feel like chatting right now, Most definitely they are focused on their $#!T first!..most people are.
3. I did not always feel this way.
Idk how old you are, but I am not ancient and I can remember a time before social media and smartphones cellphones where if I tried to call someone and they did not answer..I did not take it personally...nor did I expect that for any reason were they required to pick up or call me back the moment they say that I called..nope mostly I just figured they were not home, busy doing something else, talking to someone else, just didn't feel like talking at all...and almost never took it personally!
3. It really isn't any different..the only thing that has changed is our perception skewed by the overwhelming amount of information our current technology provides..and it is not all good! It is so convenient and helpful in many many ways..but it terrible for our self esteem!..
My advice is when you start feeling like this...take a tech break! Turn off your devices or sign out of your apps. Set them to do not disturb, walk away from them and go do something else for a while! Watch TV, read a book, go for a walk, take up a hobby, any nontech related activity you enjoy.. I think you will feel a bit better after.

And if there are some people who truly NEVER answer or respond like not even once a month...They are not your friends..axe em.
My best friend and I can go over a month without talking..but it doesn't feel like a slight.
Hope something I wrote helps
-LITW

I Agree With This 100%