[Confused1991]

Hey hey

well here it goes.
I have somewhat of a problem i'm married happy though but I battle with the fact that i find ladies attractive. In school i had a phase that i was going threw and it involved other girls my parents had a fit about it so i left it and didn't do anything about it but i still keep on wondering what could of happened had i went on with it? I'm straight up confused about this anyone else feel the same?

[leejosepho]

Animals such as cats and rabbits run on mere instincts whenever a possible mate might be within range during the season, then others such as penguins mate for life and never switch, change or substitute. We human beings have the ability to go beyond either of those so we do not end up with uncontrollable, illicit scenes in parking lots, so the challenge is to sort the emotions and such in relation to our various types of relationships -- acquaintances, neighbors, friends, family, intimate companions and so on -- responsibly (without causing inter-relationship conflicts) rather than just doing whatever we think might feel good at the expense of someone else who would be affected.

[Entity06]

You're human, it's normal to feel some benign attraction to other people even when happily married, especially after that honeymoon phase is over. What matters is, if you don't want to cheat, that you don't go further than just a simple attraction.

As for the girl part, I don't understand exactly if you're a woman or a man but if you're a woman, it's fine to not be straight and I don't think you necessarily lost anything if the relationship you're in is good and makes you happy.

Generally, as long as your relationship is satisfying, emotionally and otherwise, and you're happy and love your spouse, feeling a little attraction towards other people isn't a big deal. I guess maybe it would help put you at ease if you took some time to look inside yourself and analyze the relationship you are in, to make sure there isn't something wrong with it you're not admitting to yourself. If you don't come up with anything like that, then I'd say as long as you don't go looking for trouble, it's fine.

[avlady]

Yes, just don't act on your feelings and i agree with entity06

[Confused1991]

thank you i really appreciate your advise on this.