[cheshirekitten]

I just wanted to ask is it appropriate for someone to tell a suicidal person to go ahead and do it and they are not really going to do it? To say bye and I'll see you at your funeral. Or to tell their partner to hang up the phone and just let them do it? Apparently this what some told me their doctor told them. I personally don't agree with this all. If anything it would make me feel even worse. Also these statements were told me by a so called friend when I was tempted to commit suicide at one point.

[childofchaos831]

In my opinion, if someone is saying they are suicidal, whether the friend/doctor thinks they are not going to actually do it, it is never appropriate to say "go ahead."

1. If they weren't going to do it, that comment might make them want to do it more.
2. Never assume a suicide threat is an empty threat. It's too big of a risk.
3. A doctor saying that, imo, would be unethical. Their job is the help, and that is not helpful at all, it hurts more than anything.
4. How would they feel if they said that, and the person did go ahead and do it? I know I would be devastated and feel guilty, like it was my fault.

Puck

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by cheshirekitten

I just wanted to ask is it appropriate for someone to tell a suicidal person to go ahead and do it and they are not really going to do it? To say bye and I'll see you at your funeral. Or to tell their partner to hang up the phone and just let them do it? Apparently this what some told me their doctor told them. I personally don't agree with this all. If anything it would make me feel even worse. Also these statements were told me by a so called friend when I was tempted to commit suicide at one point.

I see you are located in Isreal. what I post may be different because I am here in the USA...

some USA states have passed laws concerning this where it is now actually illegal in some states for anyone to tell someone who says they want to die, they are suicidal, self injuring and such to go ahead and other statements/ behaviors to that affect. the reason some states here have passed these self injury suicidal laws is because of suicide pacts, and coersion / domestic violence. they also passed this law because its now equivelent to assisted suicide and homicide.

since you are in a different location you may need to contact law enforcement or your own treatment providers to find out if what you posted someone said to your friend violates any laws or is ok or not ok to say where you are.

Originally Posted by cheshirekitten

I just wanted to ask is it appropriate for someone to tell a suicidal person to go ahead and do it and they are not really going to do it? To say bye and I'll see you at your funeral. Or to tell their partner to hang up the phone and just let them do it?

Apparently this what some told me their doctor told them....

Just how sure are you that this information is correct. I certainly find it questionable that this occurred.

[Quarter life]

Regardless of whether a threat to self harm is genuine or not...In my view it is a kind of wish, and most definitely a cry for help, which should always be taken very seriously.