[Figuring.out]

I have been called names but what hurts me most is being called a people pleaser. Is it because of some insecurity? Do i think like that about myself inside?
Please help.
I am generally an agreeable person who always says yes and have a problem saying no to people.
I am almost the only one completing all my assignments on time..

[HumbleIcarus]

Hey There,

People don't call me a "people pleaser," but I am what you could call a "yes-man". If my supervisor asks me to do something I'll say yes, and do my best to perform to satisfactory levels or above.

Sometimes things bother us. If someone called me a "people pleaser" it wouldn't bother me. But there are some other names they could call me that would trip my anger alarms. We all have our own little quirks and triggers.

I try my best - every day - to ignore people. Most people you meet are dumb and truly don't ever give a second thought to what they say.

My advice: surround yourself with a selective group of close friends/individuals. Only care for what they think and say, and even then only very selectively.

Love yourself first. Get comfortable with yourself. Usually it's something about ourselves we are uncomfortable with that allows people to hurt us.

[MickeyCheeky]

Is it the label that bothers you, or the fact that you can't say no?

[Thunder Bow]

You should be proud that you complete your assignments.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Figuring.out: Well... from my perspective at least, there's nothing wrong with being a people pleaser really. I'd take it as kind-of a complement. The only potential pitfalls are that people who try to please everyone sometimes end up taking on more than they can realistically handle & sometimes they may end up doing things they wish they hadn't done just to please someone. But as long as you don't take on more than you can handle, & you know how to say "no" when it's appropriate, then I'd say... "please-on"!

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[eyesclosed]

I can understand you. You will pretty soon be doing the most work also co-workers will take advantage of you. You can't say no because they can write you up and you need a job.You need to be a independent worker otherwise this will play over and over again. Find a job where you can't be taken advantage of or at least your paid for how much you do.