Did my T cross the line?

Recently, my husband and I started seeing our T separately at my pdoc's request, for reasons that aren't really relevant to my question.

With me, he's very proper, but lately he has been very strange. He suddenly has started mentioning Munchhausen's, though he doesn't come right out and say he thinks I have it. Then when he's with my husband, he tells him he's enabling me to be sick. wtf? I can't imagine anything further from the truth. I don't know why he's saying this.

Then it occurred to me, is it possible to have Munchhausen's and an enabler at the same time? They seem to be mutually exclusive to me.

I want to try sensory deprivation in a special chamber where there is no light or sound, and you float in water and epsom salts. The idea is to free your brain of all outer stimuli. This of course, requires nudity, which is fine with me. I'm not especially shy.

The freaky part in all of this is that my T asked my husband if he (the T) and I could go together and he would stay outside the tank so that I could feel safe. Is it proper for him to suggest such a thing? I know it's not proper to discuss it with my husband when he never mentioned the two of us going together to me.

If you're confused by all of this, join the club. I hate to drop him as a T. He's been really great up until lately. He did have a fairly serious car accident about 6 months ago. Is it possible that the accident somehow changed him, because it certainly seems that way to me.

I am confused.

You think the T is mentioning Munchhausen's with reference to yourself.
He then tells your spouse that he is an enabler, perhaps.

Say he's right... you're "catching" every disorder out there, and you spouse is allowing and going right along with it.

That's one thing. (but you seem confused by saying can someone have this and also be an enabler...)

As for your T having been affected by a serious car accident even 6 months ago? Absolutely it's possible. You have every right to politely inquire or to share that he seems different to you in his ... approaches, methodology, attitude, suggestions etc... since the accident. He might not realize it.

As for sensory deprivation.... you can do this on your own and you don't have to be naked! I would NOT allow anyone to be around in that scenario, especially a T!

But you can go to the ocean or a pool when no one is there...or float with ear plugs and eye shades on and have the same sensation.

I find it unusual for a T to see both spouses (therapy) separately. There is no way the T can be objective and only support one... You could both see the one T together and then have your own Ts (3 altogether) but that gets expensive.

Licensed and certified therapists have confidential discussions with each other IF you both allow and can coordinate what is in each patient's best interest.

No wonder you're confused hon, this is not normal imo. (((hug)))

However, do not give up therapy and do not expect to change Ts again once you find one for yourself. Stick with it just in case you do need to prevent or work through any Munchhausen's?

If Monchhausen's wasn't such a serious condition, I'd be laughing so hard right now. I'd prefer to fix the conditions I have and be healthy. My husband doesn't always understand what's happening with me and researches sometimes. I was first diagnosed as bipolar in 2008, but rejected the diagnosis up until recently.

You and your T together entering a sensory deprivation chamber in the nude while your husband waits outside constitutes a quite spectacular violation of boundaries. Y'all are definitely doing some cutting-edge therapeutic techniques out there in Oklahoma.

This whole thing is bizarre. Just wondering: did you ask or did he say why he thought you had munchhausen or that your husband enables you? Also I would ask why he wants to be outside the sensory deprivation chamber. Has he seemed different since his accident?

I would say change therapists in a heartbeat but if he's been good up to this point, I would attempt to work it out with him. Again, odd. Good luck and best wishes.

Tell him what you're noticing about his behavior. He may not even realize it. If he doesn't change, find another T.

It seems he's trying to pin something on you. I wouldn't put up with that.

Noooo. Lol! We wouldn't go into the chamber together. It's only done in solitary. My T wants to be outside the chamber in case I freak out, which is a possibility, but not as big a one as he may think, which is why I think he's offering to go with me to the spa where the chamber is. I would prefer my husband go with me and stay outside the chamber in case i freak out, not my T.

There is nothing cutting-edge or therapeutic about Oklahoma. There are not even techniques, at least not ones that I can decipher.

My T is well aware that his accident changed him. Now he struggles to remember things. Once he even forgot to show up for one of our appts. So yeah, some of this could be related to his auto accident, no doubt.

I see him again on Thursday. I'm just going to come straight out and ask him wtf?

You could just go somewhere quiet and meditate. Sensory deprivation is my idea of hell, to be at the mercy of my own head and past, that would make me worse.

I do that all the time.

I am not at the mercy of my own head, 'tis the other way around which is why I am taking a proactive approach. It may or may not make things worse. I won't know until I try. EMDR made things worse at first, but then I got a whole lot better, so I'm hoping for the same result here.

I hope someday you find peace without being at the mercy of your own head. No one should have to live that way.

WW