[rdgrad15]

I've wondered why some people think I am paranoid when I am just simply cautious in social settings. I am not the kind of person who simply assumes that everyone likes me and that it is okay to invite myself to tag along with other people if they are planning on hanging out. I know some people that do that and they see nothing wrong with it and consider me to be paranoid. Maybe I am a bit paranoid but I wish they would understand why I am that way. I don't go into detail about how I have had bad experiences in the past but I do let them know that I don't like the idea of forcing my presence on people in the event it is not wanted.

Is there a reason some people don't understand what the problem is? Are you really cautious? Do you know anyone who thinks you are a bit paranoid since they are way more naive? Does it make you uncomfortable when you see people doing something such as being overly friendly to be liked or inviting themselves along with a group since you know how they probably feel? Just curious. It makes me uncomfortable since I know one day they will get hurt.

[Sunflower123]

I've never had this problem since I'm basically a loner and an introvert. I have had people think I'm stuck up because I am so quiet and I have had to explain that. I sympathize with you.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I've never had this problem since I'm basically a loner and an introvert. I have had people think I'm stuck up because I am so quiet and I have had to explain that. I sympathize with you.

Yeah I am a loner and an introvert as well. I do socialize a bit but not with many people. I don't think I give off the stuck up vibe, at least I hope not. I don't want people thinking that and I'm sorry that people think that about you.

When it comes to people inviting themselves to socialize I agree entirely. I find it very rude and annoying when people assume they are welcome or push themselves into social situations. I even go so far as to resent it. There have been times that I was the one the plans were originally made with and by the time the event occurs I am left feeling the third wheel.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

When it comes to people inviting themselves to socialize I agree entirely. I find it very rude and annoying when people assume they are welcome or push themselves into social situations. I even go so far as to resent it. There have been times that I was the one the plans were originally made with and by the time the event occurs I am left feeling the third wheel.

Yep I agree. It is very rude. I know I have called someone out before a few years ago in college who did that all the time. I would see her socializing with others and forcing her presence when she was not wanted. And it wasn't like I was just assuming. The other people were showing signs that were so obvious that she was unwanted that it was super cringy and annoying to see that she wasn't accepting it. I called her out on it a few times and she just got mad at me and called me paranoid.

Due to her thinking I was just being paranoid, she even tried to encourage me to do the same stuff she did, even going as far as to getting people to invite me. Totally inappropriate in my opinion. Of course I would tell them that I will not be joining them and she would get super mad at me and say I need to stop being paranoid. Some people I feel are just either too insecure or above themselves that they don't care if someone is showing signs that they are unwanted. I resent that kind of behavior so much.