[Mapper]

I can't understand H. He says he's going to do something and then does the opposite.

His D asked him to come down this weekend (a 7 hour round trip in one day!) to go see the movie "It" with her. He tells me this and I go "Really? You have no desire to see that" because every time the preview would come on tv he'd go "Oh that looks SOOO dumb". He tells me "No it will be fun". Then 3 days later he tells me "I don't want to go see that movie with her. It looks stupid". Well 3 days ago you were chastising me because I told you the same thing!

Last night we watched tv until 10PM and then I said I was tired and going to bed. He had practically been falling asleep on the couch and said "Yup I'm tired, I'm going to finish this drink then I'm coming to bed as well". Well no sooner than those words were out of his mouth he goes into the kitchen and fills up his glass that was half empty. Tells me he's just topping it off. Ummm.... you just said you were going to FINISH what you had and come to bed! He goes into the computer room and starts playing the guitar for 10 minutes. After than I can hear him at his computer and now he's playing a video game. I then hear him go out into the kitchen and make himself another drink. I must fall asleep and then wake up around midnight and hear him crack open a beer. A half hour later he cracks open another beer. Finally at 1:15 he comes to bed.

He was psyched to go to this concert with his coworker. They got tickets months in advance. Up until the day before I heard him on the phone with the guy saying that tomorrow night would be fun. The next day I get an email from him telling me that he doesn't want to go and he told the guy to take his daughter instead.

So I don't know why I get so upset thinking that his daughter is going to come live with us every time he brings it up because he doesn't follow through on anything else! It's like every time he says he'll do something it's just code for "I'm doing the complete opposite".

[RubyRae]

You are so completely obsessed with what your husband says and does.Maybe so you don't really have to take a look at yourself and your life?

Maybe you need to put down the magnifying glass and pick up a mirror instead.

[*Laurie*]

I really hope you'll go to therapy, Mapper. This is your life, you know...I've seen women literally waste their lives obsessing over the wrong things their husbands do.

[Sunflower123]

It certainly sounds like he changes his mind frequently. That must be very difficult and frustrating. I agree with the previous poster about a possible therapist for you. Best wishes.

[Thunder Bow]

He seems very immature in his ways. That means nothing will change and will slowly get worse.

[Shazerac]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

You are so completely obsessed with what your husband says and does.Maybe so you don't really have to take a look at yourself and your life?

Maybe you need to put down the magnifying glass and pick up a mirror instead.