Conselour giving me trouble?

A conselour at my clinic has been pretty rude to me. She seems to single me out. In a group she ran she had an attitude with me, and seemed disinterested and cold with everything I talked about.

Monday she really pissed me off, and I’m still kind of mad about it. I never go to the 9:30 group. It’s just a check in and a lot of people don’t go to it. I think I’ve been to it once in the 3 years I’ve been going there.

Anyways, the second she saw me she said “Boz Dickens, why are you not in group? If you are here you should be in group.” There were literally 2 other people sitting in the same room as me. Yet she singled me out.

I seriously doubt I need that group more then anyone else. It just really irked me. She gives me more trouble then anyone at my job. And that’s pretty bad.

I’m thinking of telling my therapist tomorrow.

It’s really bothering me.

Why would she be like this towards me? I don’t think I’ve done anything. She used to be nice, and now she’s not. It’s just odd.

Maybe it’s bothering me more then it should.

Talk to your therapist about it tomorrow Boz. I don't think any counselor should be talking to anyone like that. It could just be her personality but its certainly worth sharing your feelings about this with your therapist.

I agree with this. I’m sorry she’s giving you grief.

Actually I am not ready to file this under inappropriate. It really depends on the context of the situation. At the same time, however, she ought to have taken heed of your reaction to what was said. If such a thing happens again, then the matter IS a case of harassment and you should take steps to curb it from happening yet again. If you can't talk to her directly then do so with the person who manages her. In the meantime, this is definitely something to explore with your therapist.

My therapist pretty much told me she wouldn’t do anything about it.

I don’t have much of a support system except for my mom and the cat. I work all day 5-6 days a week. So I don’t have much time for anything else.

So basically I’m on own, and I don’t get much help from her or anyone else.

Then I think you should write a letter to the head of the service who is senior to your therapist and make your feelings known. Putting complaints in writing have a better way of getting you somewhere. Always make a copy of what you sent.

Find someone who can advocate on your behalf. your mental health association is a good resource in this regard.

I decided just not to go back to groups. My insurance changed and I’m working all the time. My therapist told me I don’t need it and I have to agree. I think (and I’m assuming) the counselor treated me like that because she thought I didn’t need to be there and that I was just wasting her time. Other treatment centers have treated me badly for that exact reason.

I think if I did go back to group I would lose it on a number of people.