[betteryourself]

I have always went from one man to another. Its a Perpetual cycle. I was married for 14 years to my first husband. Divorced him and went to another man for 10 years. And now I am on my way to another divorce. And I don't understand if it's because I don't have enough money to make it on my own. Or what

I feel like it's easy to go from one to another. I just want to know why I would think it's okay to go from one to another what am I afraid of.

Please i need advise. Any type of advise.

[Skeezyks]

Hello better: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry I cannot really shed any light on what you are experiencing. Hopefully there will be some other members, here on PC, who can. In the meantime however, here are links to some articles from PsychCentral's archives that may be of some interest:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/breakin...l-abandonment/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...relationships/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...ings-to-avoid/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/women...relationships/

I don't know, of course, if you're here simply seeking advice with regard to this particular concern or if you plan to hang in here with us. However, should you be planning to continue on (we hope you do)... may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!

[jaynedough]

Hi Better! Welcome to PC. Your marriages have lasted way longer than many others'. I think that, for the most part, people are biologically driven to be in pairs, if that makes sense. It might not be fear or finances. It might just be that you are more comfortable with a spouse than not.

[palerefraction]

Welcome to Psych Central! I just made a similar post in the Relationships forum.

I found that I have spent a good portion of growing up always in a relationship. Personally I feel that it has affected my introspection and self development and worth - like I don't know who I am without a relationship. I also struggle with boundaries and communication, though I don't know how related these are.

Someone suggested therapy, another user suggested watching the movie Eat Pray Love, in which the protagonist deals with the same issue.

Hope you can find what you're looking for here.

[Anxious me]

Welcome..

I understand where you are coming from and thank you for the honesty, I view my mother doing the exact same thing.. Man after man, marriage after marriage.. I believe financial support and security is a factor here, but so could feelings of not being able to tolerate being on their own, this is very common especially from women in my opinion,
I think it's a deeper fear of not wanting to explore their own feelings, so want a relationship to mask having to.