[sinking]

How do you solve this?

I dont have these problems, but i feel very close to gays/lesbians/trans.... only that eventually some of them will find a way to match internal/external....

How can i force myself to match feelings and thoughts/wants?

Accepting them would be a first step, but even though im not there yet, how do you move on from there (or before than there or after?)

Will you ever find peace of mind? How?

[mote.of.soul]

Hi. I think if you're aiming to achieve acceptance of your thoughts/wants, then, make that your key focus so that when you do finally achieve the acceptance, then the next step of 'how do you move on from there?' should be easier to answer - because you'll be looking at it from a new perspective. I guess I'm saying take it one step at a time - you'll get there. Just keep chipping away.

[Skeezyks]

Well... since you mentioned LGBTQ people... I thought I'd try replying to this. I'm an older man who has waged a life-long struggle with gender identity dysphoria. So I'm painfully familiar with having the inside not matching the outside, so to speak. In my case, though, there is no acceptance. It simply is what it is.

You didn't say what feelings you have that don't match what you want (or think you want.) So it's difficult to be very specific. Personally I don't believe it is possible to force your feelings & thoughts / wants to match, any more than you can force yourself not to have intrusive thoughts. (Trying to force yourself not to have intrusive thoughts is a surefire way of making certain they'll keep coming back stronger & more frequently.)

What I do, in my situation, is simply to "sit" with the sadness I carry around inside all of the time. When it stirs (which it does... a lot) I breathe into it, perhaps smile to it, & allow it to just be there until the thoughts / feelings fade of their own accord. It is a practice which is referred to as "compassionate abiding". Of course, the thoughts / feelings come back. I don't really expect they'll ever stop completely. So when they come back I simply abide compassionately with them again. Over time this practice does tend to lessen their strength as well as the frequency of their return. But perhaps more importantly, what it does is to show us that we can stay with difficult feelings & thoughts without becoming hooked... without losing our balance... our equanimity. I wish you well...