[Alchemy]

Hey.

I keep finding random stuff I want to buy, and well Can't buy, And I just end up feeling sad and I want things so bad, It's so stupid.

Non of the things I want are in anyway necessary or needed, but I know I'd obviously benefit greatly from them.

one time (posted here about it) I had a huge obsession and ended up spending the money to buy myself a Nintendo switch. I love it obviously and been spending a huge amount of time for it. but it's like if other people can't get what they want, I guess they act more normal.
thought the Switch was a very huge obsession And I'd never felt that way before.

but I still get really sad that I can't get the things I want, Is there any coping strategies or fixed for this :?

Are these items useful to your life?

I addressed this before. The answer is to be proactive. Get a job or otherwise earn yourself the reward of obtaining what you want by your own means. Stop expecting others to step in and buy or give you money for them. In the meantime make a list of the items you want. Considering what you are prepared to do make note of what is reasonable to obtain. i would then prioritize these items according to what you would like, what you need, and what you can make do without. Your list should be drastically smaller than what you first thought of. Set then some goals regarding the obtaining the priority items. Be careful to only include those which are reasonable to work towards obtaining. By the way, when you earn something of your own accord it is far more pleasurable to have.

[Alchemy]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Are these items useful to your life?

I addressed this before. The answer is to be proactive. Get a job or otherwise earn yourself the reward of obtaining what you want by your own means. Stop expecting others to step in and buy or give you money for them. In the meantime make a list of the items you want. Considering what you are prepared to do make note of what is reasonable to obtain. i would then prioritize these items according to what you would like, what you need, and what you can make do without. Your list should be drastically smaller than what you first thought of. Set then some goals regarding the obtaining the priority items. Be careful to only include those which are reasonable to work towards obtaining. By the way, when you earn something of your own accord it is far more pleasurable to have.

I guess but getting a job isn't very easy, and I'm strongly sure I will never be satisfied or happy so I'll end up with a pile of items. and I have to somehow cope with it until I can get what I want!

but maybe putting them on a list will help I'll try, non of them are really useful or needed.

I am greatly troubled.

You don't work. Your statements says you won't bother looking. Yet you also talk about an assumption you will get these somethings for nothing - that they will pile up. Does this sound reasonable?

[Alchemy]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I am greatly troubled.

You don't work. Your statements says you won't bother looking. Yet you also talk about an assumption you will get these somethings for nothing - that they will pile up. Does this sound reasonable?

But I'm only 18 :| and I couldn't even handle university without crying every night until the morning only to go to university again and do the same all over again. A job is a lot more :| I do help around the house and make food though, but that's all I can do.

Even playing games is too much for me.

We have beat this bush to death already.

At 18 you are old enough to be responsible for yourself. In my book you ought to be working. I'd be charging you rent. Now, I get that mental illness can be an impediment to working but you still should be required to start being self-sufficient and contribute. You are not a child anymore but now a young adult.

As I have told you before, there are a great many ways to contribute to the household that don't involve money.

But above all, you have got to stop this expectation that you are owed things in your life. It is unfair to the people around you and definitely not healthy. I dare say that there are people in your life that, while initially feeling helpful, have encouraged this view. You can't count on this continuing. Please, please, please realise that you need to stop expecting and start doing.

I am sure you have been asked before but the answer I cannot recall. What kind of help do you get? Counsellor? Therapist? Psychiatrist? This really needs to be at the top of the list of things to discuss.

[Alchemy]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

We have beat this bush to death already.

At 18 you are old enough to be responsible for yourself. In my book you ought to be working. I'd be charging you rent. Now, I get that mental illness can be an impediment to working but you still should be required to start being self-sufficient and contribute. You are not a child anymore but now a young adult.

As I have told you before, there are a great many ways to contribute to the household that don't involve money.

But above all, you have got to stop this expectation that you are owed things in your life. It is unfair to the people around you and definitely not healthy. I dare say that there are people in your life that, while initially feeling helpful, have encouraged this view. You can't count on this continuing. Please, please, please realise that you need to stop expecting and start doing.

I am sure you have been asked before but the answer I cannot recall. What kind of help do you get? Counsellor? Therapist? Psychiatrist? This really needs to be at the top of the list of things to discuss.

I have a therapist. but Honestly she feels a lot like someone to listen to my problems rather than someone that fixes me up,she doesn't really offer advice :c

and I know I can't. I would love for my crazy and stupid brain to start acting like a normal human being, But it honestly can't

[Alchemy]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

We have beat this bush to death already.

At 18 you are old enough to be responsible for yourself. In my book you ought to be working. I'd be charging you rent. Now, I get that mental illness can be an impediment to working but you still should be required to start being self-sufficient and contribute. You are not a child anymore but now a young adult.

As I have told you before, there are a great many ways to contribute to the household that don't involve money.

But above all, you have got to stop this expectation that you are owed things in your life. It is unfair to the people around you and definitely not healthy. I dare say that there are people in your life that, while initially feeling helpful, have encouraged this view. You can't count on this continuing. Please, please, please realise that you need to stop expecting and start doing.

I am sure you have been asked before but the answer I cannot recall. What kind of help do you get? Counsellor? Therapist? Psychiatrist? This really needs to be at the top of the list of things to discuss.

Hey, Thanks for trying to help but I don't mean to be rude but this advice is unhelpful and only is making me feel worse about my depression and state.

What I'm looking for is more a way to control myself or stop feeling so hurt over these things.

Oh and I believe a parent is responsible for their child's life and all forever! not just 18 years! Noone really chooses to be born :c

And I rather not think in rules like this. I'd obviously get a job if I could and I'm trying my best, in the meanwhile? My dad is paying for what I need like he always used to. And I'm obviously thankful and try to help him in anyway I can!

[avlady]

you should try to start out with an easy job, even though it may be boring, but it would be less stressful than a difficult one. jobs are fun sometimes, especially part time jobs, and you can meet people there and have a bit of a life. i know i loved every job i had and they were all part time. yu need to get awa from your gaming and deal with real life situations.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Alchemy

What I'm looking for is more a way to control myself or stop feeling so hurt over these things.

Oh and I believe a parent is responsible for their child's life and all forever! not just 18 years! Noone really chooses to be born :c
!

I only know that it feels better to provide for myself than to be dependent and at the mercy of another. It's a valid suggestion to state that your emotional state of mind may feel better through being able to independently supply your desire for materialistic wants.

No, no you did not choose to be born. At the same time, you didn't will yourself not to survive once out of the womb. Do your parents know that you expect them to care for you until they pass away?

[Shazerac]

My advice is to first work on your extremely erroneous assumption that your parents are responsible to provide for you your entire life! that are NOT. Period end of that discussion.

Many people your age (or any age) with mental illness find a way to manage it and function. They go to school or work or even both. It’s difficult of course but life isn’t always easy or fair.

[Medusax]

Amazon is a dangerous place for me..... I feel your pain.

[divine1966]

Many of my students have a job starting age 16. Many save for a car, many save for buying nice clothes that parents wouldn’t buy them, many buy electronics etc They work in stores or restaurants or other random local stuff . ALL have disabilities of all kind of varieties including cognitive impairment.

If you were accepted to university you certainly have intellectual ability to hold a job, at least part time while in school. Why aren’t you working? The only way to be able to afford things is to work. How else would you be able to get all those nice things you want?

[divine1966]

Parent is responsible to support a kid financially their whole life? I’ve never heard anything of the sorts. Why would you even want to be dependent on your parents your whole life? Seems like an awful way to live.

[Agent Misty]

A parent is responsible of raising a child that is responsible and will one day raise their own child to be responsible... among other things. Their job is to raise you to be able to take care of yourself and your life and your job and bills, future, etc. not just support you forever so you need not lift a finger while they do it all.... tidying the house and cooking the food they bring home is not sufficient.