[goldiemom]

I recently had a friend stay with me to help me go thru two surgeries. I had met this friend online thru a lupus forum and knew them for many years thru long phone conversations and a visit.

When my friend Susan moved in she planned to probably stay but began being abusive to me by making negative comments. She claims she is psychic and began saying there was evil in my house. My house is newer so its not haunted. But she insisted it was the house not anxiety.

Next is was the yard. My back yard is forest and she saw a hole inbetween some bushes and began saying there was evil spirits in the yard now that the hole was a portal or something. I was very insulted by this and also getting creeped out. I told hwr if there is evil she is bringing it.

Her plan was to insult me and suck up to others around me so that if i came to anyone else about the abuse they would not believe me. this did not work out for her. she also constantly talked to herself and much of it sounded nasty about people and things. She slept until 4pm and stayed up all night on the web and phone. She smokes incessantly but doesnt believe it causes cancer.

She walked around in skimpy outfits that did not reflect her age of 50. Then she starts talking about how everyone wants to rape her. She started claiming the only male in the household wanted to rape her and i opened the kitchen drawer and found all the knives in the front lining up so she could just open the drawer a crack and grab one and start stabbing i guess. i got really scared on that esp since no one was remotely interested in this woman. as a rape victim I know you dont dress like that if you truly fear being raped. And she does this infront of my hubby even getting out of the shower in only a towel and walking thru the house.

She claims her daughter is a schizophrenic and both she and her daughter have had their children taken away. She claims her children were taken away due to stroke and resulting blindness but she has a drivers license! She is clearly not sick with the million diseases she claims to have. Thats rotten too. She even mimicked my postsurgical pain. She does not take medication and hasnt seen a doctor in years. She looks extremely healthy for her age to the point she models. Her skin is flawless. No one with lupus looks like that.

She hears things and has very acute senses. But she believes she is the illegitimate daughter of princess grace for no reason. There is no evidence of tjis but she actually contacted them. Shes very paranoid and superior to everyone. All her husbands were in the cia she claims and all raped all her children too according to her. As infants.

She is emotionless. A phony and malignant narcissist and hypochondriac. An abusive person and delusional. But is she sicker than this? My family thinks so. They think she may be schizophrenic like her daughter. I believed her that the stroke caused all her problems but hearing her tell of the past not sure. Im mad some because Im really sick and disabled and I felt perhaps she uses the disease forums to prey on weaker people. But it would just be to abuse them. She did not steal anything that i can tell. I feel sad i lost my friend. Oh and when i showed her where the mental health building was she started screaming at me that she wasnt crazy and that really was totally crazy. Sorry so long really freaked out.

[goldiemom]

Oh and she said when i get food the cabinet doors shut and make noise that gives her massive migraines every day and wake her up and I cant watch tv very very low volume because of the same. I had to stay in my room till she left thank God. She would put me down too. I dont fall for that crap anymore nor my friends and family.

[healingme4me]

Sounds like a horribly stressful living situation. Is there any way to ask her to move out of your home? It was kind of her to offer to come help you, her time there has run its course, apparently. It's ok to want to take a different direction with your life.

[goldiemom]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Sounds like a horribly stressful living situation. Is there any way to ask her to move out of your home? It was kind of her to offer to come help you, her time there has run its course, apparently. It's ok to want to take a different direction with your life.

Thank you so much. The knife thing was awful.

Yes she moved out. I feel sad though that she was not the friend i thought she was. I dont know if she was off meds or just lying. I can only handle honesty. My mother said something very wise. she said sometimes people act badly or abusive out of habit.

Im a child of malignant narcissists and i have trouble sometimes telling genuine people from narcissistic people. Im very proud of my mom she changed alot and we can have a good relationship as long as I m careful not to react. My mother had a bad head injury.

The knives really triggered my ptsd. Luckily i have two dogs.

[seeker33]

I'm glad she's gone now! I guess you're shocked and disappointed in her, but you can also be relieved she left and you won't have to put up with her unexcusable behaviour.

[goldiemom]

Yes I responded differently than in the past and it worked out. i tried to come from a place of love not fear. When her daughter out of state had problems I simply then encouraged and supported her in leaving. I had to hold my tongue alot. Better she leave on a calm note. Now im shaking. Took my ativan. Ill be okay in a few days with doggie therapy.

You're gonna be okay, alright?

[goldiemom]

Seeker 33 I like your signature. I changed my life to live out in the country and I love the quiet. Im interested in the heightened senses as I think I have them. I tuned pianos for a short while and have a good sense of smell. When i was raped in my teens i was standing outside the house and suddenly smelled the mans cologne and began crying and shaking in terror. I pointed down the road several blocks to where people looked tiny and said hes down there and coming here. They tried to calm me and were surprised when the rapist walked right up to us and threatened to murder us if we went to the police which of course I did when i could. He went to jail. But they were amazed at my sense of smell.
Do you have this type of thing?

[seeker33]

Originally Posted by goldiemom

Seeker 33 I like your signature. I changed my life to live out in the country and I love the quiet. Im interested in the heightened senses as I think I have them. I tuned pianos for a short while and have a good sense of smell. When i was raped in my teens i was standing outside the house and suddenly smelled the mans cologne and began crying and shaking in terror. I pointed down the road several blocks to where people looked tiny and said hes down there and coming here. They tried to calm me and were surprised when the rapist walked right up to us and threatened to murder us if we went to the police which of course I did when i could. He went to jail. But they were amazed at my sense of smell.
Do you have this type of thing?

I'm so sorry you went through this! I can't imagine how scary it must have been for you! However I'm glad he's in jail!
There's an ability of remote smelling, it even has a name which I can't remember right now.
My empathy is more sensing people's characters and sometimes their past traumas or diseases. It doesn't happen with everyone but quite often.

[Calla lily12]

Wow!! I'm so glad she's gone! I wouldn't have felt safe , if I were you. I believe she is a very sick woman.