[Liamlll]

I did therapy about five years ago and tbh the guy ignored me a bit in the end and tried to get rid of me

I was thinking of ringing him and asking why but is this silly or not?

He was the most confident guy I’ve ever met and seemed convinced he could help but it made me worse

[Skeezyks]

Well... from my perspective at least... I would say this falls under the category of "let sleeping dogs lie". But that's just me. I don't know if you see a therapist now. What seems to me to be important is where you go from here not why some therapist you saw 5 years ago ignored you & ended up trying to get rid of you. (I know I've seen a few turkeys for brief periods over the years too.)

If you're not seeing a therapist at the present time, & you're interested in seeing one, I would think the thing to do would be to see if you can find one you feel comfortable with. That, it seems to me, is one of the most important elements in therapy. I see you're in the U.K. And from reading various posts, here on PC, I have the impression finding quality mental health treatment can be a challenge. But better to put your time & energy into moving forward, it seems to me, rather than to spend even a small amount of it revisiting something that occurred 5 years ago. At least that's my perspective with regard to your post.

[eskielover]

I'm with Skeezyks on this. I had 13 years if T 's & PDOC's who didn't get what I was going through (I didn't either).

I left the H & environment I had lived in all my life & moved away to where I knew no one, met awesome people & got into the best therapy & learned skills & was finally able to integrate the past issues with my present knowledge.

I would love to send an email to at least the key PDOC's & T who didn't get it especially the one PDOC who quit treating me because of my constant suicide attempts.....would love to let him know why that was happening.....

BUT in reality I think it would be a pointless waste of my time especially at this point that I now have an awesome life & all that is in my past I really have no desire to go back into even to tell them what was really going on.

What is important in our life is learning how to handle our now....honestly when I got into good T for my now.....the past became clear wuthout having to go back & talk to anyone from that past

[Rose76]

Are you looking for closure? Did the deterioration in your relationship with this provider leave you with. nagging feelings of rejection that you don't know how to process? What is going on now that causes you to consider reconnecting?

I don't think you can just call him up and shoot a big question at him. If you want to get any answers, I think you have to pay for some time with him. To just make a phone call would be unfair to him and even to yourself. While I agree with posts above that seem to say that life is about going forward and not rummaging around in the past, I can see where connecting with him might serve a purpose. But don't attempt to do this via a phone call. You can telephone him to make the appointment, but you would have to have this discussion in person.

Should you even be doing this? I don't know. I don't think it could do any real harm. It could be educational, if you handled it right. This T might decline to even meet with you. Are you prepared to feel rejected anew?