[food thief]

Wow i have been doing it for years My wife says this is my food and please do not eat it. In the middle of the night without any self control I will eat it feel guilty about it pray about but I keep doing it! It's disrespectful to my wife and she said this morning she's half out the door I must I mean must change my behavior and let my wife eat her her own food in peace
please help! I am causing a major problem in our marriage

[healingme4me]

Is there nothing else for you to eat in the middle of the night when you get up to snack?

[Skeezyks]

Hello food thief: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral. I'd have to admit I'm not sure what type of mental health condition your concern would fall under. There is a forum, here on PC, dedicated to the subject of eating disorders. So perhaps that might be one forum you would want to take a look at. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/eating-disorders/

Another forum that may be of interest would be the relationships & communication forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

I suppose the other way to look at this, though, might be as a habit you need to break. So, with that thought in mind, here are links to 6 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of how to break a bad habit:

Need to Form a New Habit? 66 Days

7 Steps to Changing a Bad Habit

The Golden Rule of Habit Change

https://psychcentral.com/blog/scienc...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/using-...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindf...dium=popular17

I hope you find the answers to your dilemma here on PC.

P.S. I presume there must be some reason why simply having your own food on hand so that you don't need to steal your wife's wouldn't work? If the answer to that is that you'd eat that too, then perhaps this is a type of eating disorder & what is going to be needed here is treatment for that.

[food thief]

Thank you very much!

[food thief]

Well i have been studying the suggested links and it sure is tough to look at yourself but I have found the golden rule helpful The reason why I get up in the middle of the night to eat is because I am so frustrated for getting up multiple times to go to the bathroom I have a enlarged prostate and some nights are just blame brutal so I get up I eat something as a reward Then if I am really frustrated and really having a hard time I take my wife's food I do that out of rebellion I went to bed hungry a lot as a kid but now I am going to change what I do when I get up walk on treadmill, pray, watch a dvd change my routine

[Skeezyks]

Originally Posted by food thief

Well i have been studying the suggested links and it sure is tough to look at yourself but I have found the golden rule helpful The reason why I get up in the middle of the night to eat is because I am so frustrated for getting up multiple times to go to the bathroom I have a enlarged prostate and some nights are just blame brutal so I get up I eat something as a reward Then if I am really frustrated and really having a hard time I take my wife's food I do that out of rebellion I went to bed hungry a lot as a kid but now I am going to change what I do when I get up walk on treadmill, pray, watch a dvd change my routine

Ah yes... ... I was diagnosed with prostate cancer years ago & ended up having it removed. So I'm quite familiar with getting up multiple times a night to go pee. Sometimes I'm able to go back to sleep. Sometimes not...

[hvert]

Could you get some snacks that are just for you? Could she hide some of her food? It's a tough habit to change - I wish you the best of luck with it!

[Thunder Bow]

I think this has been a part of your relationship for a long time. No worry about it.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm sorry you're struggling, food thief Do you see a doctor? I think that might help with your problem. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this