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Default Jan 06, 2020 at 12:54 AM
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In my case, I was so embarrassed by some of the really STUPID things my dad would say when (very seldom) he was in a social situation. So my thing was to speak so softly that no one could hear me because if I said something WRONG I was afraid of sounding as STUPID as my dad.

I could give speeches on topics I knew well but just answering questions or talking with people I went into quiet mode. I finally broke out of that at 54 when I finally got out of the bad environment I had been in....though my dad had died at least 15 years before that. When I got out of the bad marriage, I could think clearer & retain things I read & that opened up my ability to truly become part of discussions. Go figure, that was after my computer design engineer career was over. I sometimes look back & wonder......feels like I an thankfully NOT the same person I was.
I’m the same way. Yeah I have a fear of sounding stupid top. Glad things have gotten better with you.
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I’m the same way. Yeah I have a fear of sounding stupid top. Glad things have gotten better with you.
Sorry you are struggling with that too.

It is interesting because I moved 2100 miles away to a town where I knew no one. First thing I did was join the library read a book & discuss it group. The first time I went, I totally shocked myself being a very active participant in the discussions. When I got home, I wondered how in the world did that happen. I got more involved in other study groups & the same thing happened. It was the strangest feeling

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Sorry you are struggling with that too.

It is interesting because I moved 2100 miles away to a town where I knew no one. First thing I did was join the library read a book & discuss it group. The first time I went, I totally shocked myself being a very active participant in the discussions. When I got home, I wondered how in the world did that happen. I got more involved in other study groups & the same thing happened. It was the strangest feeling
Oh I’m sure it was strange but I’m sure it also felt good. Glad you got to be more open, small steps always help.
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