Where the hell is everyone?

Oh wow. I got to look them up!

It did have to do with the sale of the site for me. I saved my thousands of posts, and it wasn’t easy. The thought that the site may simply disappear, made me feel bad that I have put so much of myself into those posts, and they would be gone. I wanted to save my writing.

I’m sure I’ve also been addicted to this site. Knowing it’s ending had me step away first. Abandonment issues? I want to avoid that awful feeling of being ghosted by my virtual, anonymous support group.

At this point, I think I’ll post some more through to the end, if there is an end...I’m not sure what will happen when the site transfers.

IRL I’ve had people closest to me turn out to not care for me, and devastate me. I feel I must not be lovable, and that’s why. It was the theme of my rants here for the several years I was on. It only got worse over that time.

I feel caring for all here, and that I’ve been my best at being supportive and kind (though telling it like it is). But IDK if more than a few people here thought much of me. Heck, maybe I was outright disliked. If my own ‘loved ones’ thought so little of me, what do I expect from peers?

So that’s why I’ve been scarce lately.

Plus, I’ve been really busy lately helping my son apply to colleges.

Also, my anxiety attacks are severe. I go from hysteria and back to baseline, rinse, repeat. It’s been so long now, I’ll probably never get better. The docs and meds don’t help. The hysteria is due to the theme of my anxiety; the abandonment and betrayal from too many of those I love. It’s a love/hate dynamic on my part. I didn’t cause it; they did. I’m just very sensitive and unable to brush off those devastations.

I am grateful we are not sick yet and have food and shelter in this pandemic. I am grateful I somewhat repaired some of those devastated relationships of mine IRL. The severe pain of those deep wounds have healed a lot. Thank God.

My prayers go out to all on here to heal, survive, and thrive.

@TishaBuv, I was wondering where you had gone! Tisha, I care about you, and you were missed!!!!

I know in my posts I can be very direct and brutally honest, but that doesn't mean I don't care - in fact, I care probably a bit too much!!!

Missed you and very glad to see you are back!

Well I think that this forum is very popular compared to other websites. Lol every time I log in theres a new post at least every 30mins so Im not bored of asking questions or giving hugs

I'm glad I'm still able to make some smile

I heard from two long term members today who have been absent for a while (one for about a month, the other for longer). They are both ''ok'' and well. (and busy ''irl'')

It's good to check in with friends now and again

Thank you for this thread.

I'm happy that it is not anyone's ''fault'' that some members are currently taking a break from pc.

much love to all

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I didn't even know that there was a sale of the site. I will admit, I have noticed a slight drop in activity on the site. Responses come in slower, and not as many people join in conversations. There are other sites that have way less activity though. It could also be people getting out more after quarantine. Even though that was a few months ago, they probably want to be out of the house as much as possible. I will say this site is still way more popular than others. On some other sites, you won't get a response on a thread for weeks, and occasionally, months. If ever. And even then, it may be just one or two replies. Psych central is my favorite site. Quick responses, more interactive and helpful advice and discussions, and just overall more friendly. I've tried other sites where people are downright cruel. Instead of being helpful, they make you feel like the worthless person they think you are, even though it isn't true.

I have also found some other sites which are less busy, and where people are cruel. And instead of being supportive or helpful, they treat others as if they are the worthless person they might think they are, even though this is not true.

THX for stating that these experiences are valid when seeking online supportive networks as this is usually the end resulting experience.

Luckily the only site I’ve dealt with where they were truly nasty was IMDB. Then again I probably shouldn’t have been getting mental health support from a movie forum. But other TV forums and diet forums and mental health ones I’ve been a part of have luckily been pretty kind. I am just used to this one.

Yeah seeking out online mental health support during lock down can be a very Don Quixote type of experience.

then again so can volunteering for Team London, Clay Impact, and TI Television.

I'll be honest, I've done that. I'm sure we all have. In most cases, I may create a new thread as a follow up of a previous thread or just seeking additional advice if something changes. Although, at least for me, since I have so many threads now, there has been times where I actually forgot I already talked about something so I will create a new one that is practically identical. Usually it is several months or even a year apart or even more. That is rare but I have done that.

I've experienced that too.

There are so many people who used to be here that aren't coming around any more. I really miss them.