[Evening]

Ugh I need to vent. I had a bit of an 'incident' shall we say while I was on my way to the city.
2 girls no older than me went to catch the bus I was on, but one of them had a baby and a pram. The bus driver explained she would have to fold the pram up on this bus because it's not like the new buses, and she didn't like that one bit. I have NEVER heard anyone carry on like that in my life. F this and F that, her friend tried to explain she'd had a stressful day (by this point my sympathy was wavering). The WHOLE bus ride she was *****ing about it, that other bus drivers don't make her fold the pram, blah blah blah. Then when we went to get off the bus, she was still there carrying on to the bus driver, how he'd made her day even worse, etc., people were trying to ask the bus driver questions (I was trying to ask the time) and also were trying to get OFF the bus. But this girl was still going on and on and swearing every second word.
Now I don't handle anger very well because of my PTSD, so it was really starting to stress me out, I had moved to the back of the bus so I wouldn't have to listen to her, but by now I had to stand there and hear every word. As I walked away it all got too much for me, 20 minutes of yelling and swearing and snide comments, and I snapped, turned around and said 'oh my God would you PLEASE just SHUT THE F___ UP!!!'. Then she started going off at me 'EXCUSE ME WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?' and I said 'you heard EXACTLY what the F___ I just said, don't ruin everyone elses day with your smart *** attitude!'.
The bus driver managed to use this moment to drive off, and I sure as hell don't blame him.
Then I walked to my stop, and she crossed the road with her baby calling me every name under the sun.

Man it really got to me. I hate people's anger, I can't cope. I tried to walk away and ignore it until I just couldn't take it anymore. I can't handle anger and yelling (you can blame my mothers ex for that). But one thing I AM proud of in all this, it's the first time in years I didn't burst into tears, I managed to keep myself composed the whole time. Not to say I don't have a major stomach ache now (3 hours later) from the stress it caused.

I think I need to lie down now...

[Perna]

Oh, Evening, that sounds so uncomfortable! I'm sorry you had to have that end to your day and the upset stomach; I know what you mean about the bursting into tears, I do that too.

[Evening]

Originally Posted by Perna

Oh, Evening, that sounds so uncomfortable! I'm sorry you had to have that end to your day and the upset stomach; I know what you mean about the bursting into tears, I do that too.

Don't you just hate it? Even when I'm not UPSET, I could be absolutely fuming, but I turn into a blubbering mess.

[Perna]

I still remember the time I took my car in for repair and my girlfriend, on her way to another appointment, took me to the repair shop to pick it up. I paid, several hundred dollars back in 1970's and went to get in the car and drive off and they'd done NOTHING. We went to the shop foreman and I just burst into tears and my girlfriend had to try to yell at him second hand :-)

[Evening]

Originally Posted by Stella55

I wonder if there is a another cause for the tears besides depression. I'm sitting in the dentist chair feeling fine and they tell me about 2 or 3 things they are going to have to do and the water works start and I feel like an idiot because they are looking at me like "what the heck?" OK....maybe the fact that when I got there I find out that my dentist has just up and left the state and no one bother to let me know. Yesterday I'm having a great day and all my medical doctor did was ask how things were going in my personal life and my eyes fill and....there we go again.

For me it seems to be a problem when the attention is all of a sudden turned in my direction whether I initially fell in control or not.

Yes there's is definitely another reason for it other than depression for a lot of people. For me it is because anger and confrontation is a trigger for me, my mothers ex had the most demonic anger you ever saw, funnily enough as much as I REMEMBER it, I don't remember it vividly. But it was bad. So anger scares me, my heart starts going a million miles a minute, I start shaking, and then I burst into tears. Then after it's all over, I'll get a bad stomach ache. Depending on the situation it can all last for up to 2 days. But this time I've done really well, I didn't cry, and I'm almost over it after a few hours. I think my other problem with confrontation is that as much as I try to avoid it, when I see it I feel the need to be protective, the thought of the victim feeling embarrassed and worked up makes me uncomfortable. Even though logically most people aren't going to get as worked up as I do.

[lonegael]

Good for you, Evening. So many times I have seen people who have fewer problems than you have simply sit back and let people bully others because they think they should "mind their own business, etc." Remember, people who do this stuff in public are counting on everyone else bing the complascent audience in front of whom they cana humiliate others. I know that anger is scary, but sometimes it is right. A tantrum in public IS making the issue in question public business. Otherwise she would go home and spout off there.

Wonderful that you didn't cry, also. Way to go! I know you probably felt bad afterwards, but there is no reason to sit back and be one of her victims instead.
HUUUGGGS!

[KathyM]

LOL Evening - I'll bet the bus driver and passengers were thankful you had the courage to speak up. They were probably all giggling under their breath. I feel sorry for that baby. Like it or not, we all have to follow rules. A parent's behavior sets an example to their children. I suspect that baby will be lacking in communication and coping skills.

Pat yourself on the back. I'd like to think your confrontation with her made her think twice about the example she is setting for her child.

[Evening]

This chick said she'd had a very stressful day, it was quiet apparent a lot had gone down for her. So if she got frustrated having to carry things onto the bus and then fold the pram and put it on then fine, but seriously, G-E-T. O-V-E-R. I-T.
I can't pretend that I'm always a nice person you know. Carrying on about it for that long is over the top. I thought she'd stopped at one point, but then she turned to her friend and started *****ing about it within earshot of the bus driver, making sure he could hear. And her baby managed to keep as much composure through the whole thing as I did, it never cried once. I would say that I was really disgusted at the way she was talking while she had a baby right there, but then would I be hypocritical for swearing myself when I told her to shut up.

Oh well, let's just hope I don't bump into her again hey? haha