Maybe it is a woman's idea

It's the total opposite with me and my bf. He always mows the yard bc I just don't care. He is always on me about washing my car and probably washes his every couple weeks. He is usually the one who starts the cleaning on the weekend. Not that I'm a slob or anything, but he definitely pays more attention to those things than I do.

I like it clean, I am just so disorganzed that it usuall just involves lifting the piles and vacuuming under them.

JD... Actually I don't do the cleaning upstairs. Folks upstairs are responsible for keeping their environment clean. I am going to suggest they hire a housekeeper.

Actually I didn't mean to say guys are responsible for cars and yards and trash. Or that women are responsible for cooking and cleaning. I think whoever sees wharever needs to be done, just do it. There were three, big n strong, healthy young men living upstairs and not one took the garbage can to the curb nor did they bring the empy can back. THey park their cars either in front of the "full or empy" can... lol

OH .. btw... I am single. Did my tour of duty of wife....that didn't work, so I stayed single......

racee.. lol only a year to get the tree cut down... Am thinking "gentle reminders" are they key.. Trying to think how to word this.. lol..

Isn't so much as a gender thing. One gender take out the trash, the other wash the dishes. Just whoever sees the trash can as they are walking to the door, why not just tug it along with ya and drop it at the top of the driveway... shrugs shoulders.. THey all walk past it everyday lol

Guess the only thing I might think to be a gender thing would be the heavy lifting. Guess it could be left up to whoever is the strongest? For me, I am not all the strong, so heavy lifting is out of the question.

AAAAA.... OMG 11 years...... Sure hope you said thank you.... Funny post... thank you for sharing... When ya can laugh, everything doesn't seem so bad..

salukgirl... guess some guys notice things and participate in the household chores. Is so much easier when they contribute...Don't ya think!

lonegael....... Ya touched on another topic.. Being organized.. well, as like you, I do prefer clean... But I am not the most organized... Ya might find the sugar bowl in the refrig one day and in the kitchen cabinet the next day. Then some days ya might not even find the sugar bowl.. bad on me... grins There are always places to put stuff, I guess... Who said it always has to go in the same place... smile

I just wanted to add this. Again I don't know if this is a "man" thing. AJ's dad came over tonight. He was hungry and asked me to make a steak and cheese for him. SO I started making the onions and he grabbed the rolls and tossed them in the toaster oven. I checked the buns and said they are ready and AJ's dad said no they aren't ready, the toaster oven didn't stop. SO I say well ok... and finish cooking up the steak and then he took over adding the cheese... I was making the coffee I noticed he was eatting his steak and cheese.. The buns were burnt black... I said oo let me make another one, you can't eat that.. He refused... He ate that poor steak n cheese with burnt totally black bun.... shrugs shoulders

A man's thing maybe or that he didn't want to waste a bun? Or he didn't want to admit he burned the buns? I mean the bun was burnt crisp so bad it crumbled apart, burnt so bad it would have no other flavour other than a burnt taste, yet he still ate it... bless his heart....

My husband very much cares about what the yard looks like, and the garage. The house? Nope. Nasty bathrooms and layers upon layers of dust and dirt don't faze him at all. He says he doesn't care what anyone thinks of the house. Yet, he very much cares what people think about his yard. He's weird I guess.

whenwilltend... Nah, he's not weird.. Guess even the folks that don't mind a dirty house are not weird. Guess it boils down to "what one prefers" maybe...

I just had a thought .. watch out.. lol........Seems when everything is in order sometimes the house, yes feels clean, but there is also can be a feeling of "lonely". Maybe this lonely feeling (for me) means that everything is done, my mind is not focused on the mess, and now I have time to think about me and that is more scary than a dirty house .. just a thought ... or as someone mentioned that women tend to complain more....... or i've am losing or have my mind...

I never ever get to the point where everything's done and I can just sit down and relax. I always have that little voice in my head (not literally) saying this needs done, and that needs done, get off your butt! My therapist says I need to learn to relax and that it's okay to leave stuff undone for a while.