Is it because I'm an attention seeker? You lot have advice and I don't have much. I might as well suffer on my own, punching myself, pinching myself and ripping my hair out. You might as well just don't care about me. Maybe I won't tell anyone my problems.. I'll just keep it all inside! Sooo... you can all carry on laughing and having great lives while I suffer on my own and hurting myself. What the heck was I born for? I'm a mistake! I hardly have a boyfriend, I'm a boring person, I'm shy and nasty.I'm used for sex so I might as well become a prossie. I wish someone could punch me and strangle me. Yeah.. Just read this and think "what a sad *****" and carry on with your happy lives.

[lynn P.]

((((happycheeks))) - I'm sorry you're not feeling cared for here. Please don't take it personally. It could be do to several reasons and I'll list them in order(easier that way).
1. it's slow during the day.
2. you recently changed your name.
3. you're a fairly new member and it's take a while to get to know people.
4. the particular forum doesn't get alot of traffic.

Honestly it's happened to all of us, including myself. One time I started a thread and it took 2 days to get a response. I would be happy to talk to you and you could PM me and let me know you started a thread or if you want to talk one on one. No you shouldn't suffer alone and I'm happy you're here, so please don't put yourself down. I used to be very shy when I was younger too.

Originally Posted by lynn P.

((((happycheeks))) - I'm sorry you're not feeling cared for here. Please don't take it personally. It could be do to several reasons and I'll list them in order(easier that way).
1. it's slow during the day.
2. you recently changed your name.
3. you're a fairly new member and it's take a while to get to know people.
4. the particular forum doesn't get alot of traffic.

Honestly it's happened to all of us, including myself. One time I started a thread and it took 2 days to get a response. I would be happy to talk to you and you could PM me and let me know you started a thread or if you want to talk one on one. No you shouldn't suffer alone and I'm happy you're here, so please don't put yourself down. I used to be very shy when I was younger too.

Thanks for your reply. But I reckon no one really cares me. I'm a mistake! I might as well suffer on my own. I'm an attention seeker, remember?

[salukigirl]

Please don't think that! I sometimes wonder why the posts I have where I need the MOST help don't get any replies. But people do care. There are just so many friggen posts on here it's hard to keep up sometimes. I'm guilty of it. I'll ignore the site for a week or two while I'm super busy and then get on and do like 10 replies at once.

We do care though. You are NOT mistake and nobody wants you to take the route you said earlier. Thank you for bringing this to my attention and I will try to be more supportive of your needs. If you need anything PM me. I'm always here for you!

[lynn P.]

Depression can make you feel these sad thoughts and I absolutely don't think you're a mistake at all. I've responded a few times to your threads and I'm happy to talk to you. Don't put yourself down dear.

[sundog]

((((((((((((happycheeks))))))))))))))) Big hugs to you!! I think it's really good you are saying out loud that it upsets you when you don't get a response. That's healthy!!! A lot of people would just be upset, but not say anything and instead internalize the hurt and take it out on themselves.

I think it is totally fair enough that when you start a thread on a support forum you expect a response (or two, or three!!) I'm really sorry if some of your threads have been overlooked. I would be upset too!!!!! I think Lynn gives some really good reasons as to why that may have happened.

Personally, there are some forums here that I never look at because they are outside my realm of experience. And equally, there are some threads that I can't relate to, so I don't respond to those either. I'm not sure which forums you've posted in but I'll go and take a look and at the very least leave you some hugs!!!!!!! Don't stop posting!!!! We do care about you and love having you here!!!!! (((((((((happycheeks))))))))))

[Rohag]

Just an opinion, but PsychCentral is a place to seek attention. Please forgive me if I have said (or not said) anything to give you an impression of avoidance.

Originally Posted by sundog

((((((((((((happycheeks))))))))))))))) Big hugs to you!! I think it's really good you are saying out loud that it upsets you when you don't get a response. That's healthy!!! A lot of people would just be upset, but not say anything and instead internalize the hurt and take it out on themselves.

I think it is totally fair enough that when you start a thread on a support forum you expect a response (or two, or three!!) I'm really sorry if some of your threads have been overlooked. I would be upset too!!!!! I think Lynn gives some really good reasons as to why that may have happened.

Personally, there are some forums here that I never look at because they are outside my realm of experience. And equally, there are some threads that I can't relate to, so I don't respond to those either. I'm not sure which forums you've posted in but I'll go and take a look and at the very least leave you some hugs!!!!!!! Don't stop posting!!!! We do care about you and love having you here!!!!! (((((((((happycheeks))))))))))

Thanks for you caring and being thoughtful. I am sorry if I have been harsh. I have calmed down now. I hate mood swings

[(JD)]

Maybe because you do suffer with a strong attention-seeking persona that you feel you are being neglected, when you aren't?

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, though.

I checked over some of your posts and found most all of them to be well within what we members here have found to be the "norm" for replies. A decent ratio of views to posts is about 10 - 1= which is 10% replies. Of course, there's no method to our madness here regarding who reads and who posts and all that, too too many variables.

Plus, your response rate will be somewhat different from each other's because you might tend to make statements or ask questions of info that others might not share normally. IDK just making a statement.

So be careful whom you're comparing yourself to, and when you find a thread that has many posts in it, see if you can figure out why (it's a game, it's a current active irk to society topic, it's a fun social short reply thread...etc.)

Hope it picks up enough for you to feel better though. TC!

[Skully]

I am sorry you do not get many replies
I always do a search for unanswered threads and I always try to leave a response. Sometimes it is just hard for individuals to come up with something to say. Keep trying though, it is always good to release your emotions through writing and even if I don't get many replies, I always feel better after posting something that is bothering me.

[ruffy]

(((Happycheecks))) Dont give up. We truly do care about you.

Originally Posted by ruffy

(((Happycheecks))) Dont give up. We truly do care about you.

Thanks but I lost 2 people in my life and I keep pushing people away. I hardly have anything to look forward too. Sometimes I get suicidal thoughts in my head. Thanks for the hug though. I need some support.

[Skully]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Thanks but I lost 2 people in my life and I keep pushing people away. I hardly have anything to look forward too. Sometimes I get suicidal thoughts in my head. Thanks for the hug though. I need some support.

I know exactly how you feel. I always push people away before they have the chance to hurt me or push me away. It is a defense mechanism to protect yourself from getting hurt.

(((happycheeks)))
Thinking of you

[cautious hope]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Thanks for your reply. But I reckon no one really cares me. I'm a mistake! I might as well suffer on my own. I'm an attention seeker, remember?

Oh dear, please dont spiral like that! You deserve so much better. At least let us support you

[IceCreamKid]

Hello. I haven't been particularly happy today. In fact I felt quite trapped and unhappy. I feel better now because I am not at work. I didn't realize you were feeling emotionally neglected. I only post in short bursts on here because I have so much else to do. The so much else I have to do isn't usually fun stuff unless you think changing litter pans and doing laundry and going to the grocery store is fun. I find it hard to believe most prostitutes are happy. The instinct to survive is strong. Yours prompted you to post what you did, even though some of it was nonsense. The next post of yours I read, I would like to see where you have gone to your doctor and told her or him what you wrote here and that you asked for help finding a better alternative.

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

Hello. I haven't been particularly happy today. In fact I felt quite trapped and unhappy. I feel better now because I am not at work. I didn't realize you were feeling emotionally neglected. I only post in short bursts on here because I have so much else to do. The so much else I have to do isn't usually fun stuff unless you think changing litter pans and doing laundry and going to the grocery store is fun. I find it hard to believe most prostitutes are happy. The instinct to survive is strong. Yours prompted you to post what you did, even though some of it was nonsense. The next post of yours I read, I would like to see where you have gone to your doctor and told her or him what you wrote here and that you asked for help finding a better alternative.

Thanks...

[whenwillitend]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Is it because I'm an attention seeker? You lot have advice and I don't have much. I might as well suffer on my own, punching myself, pinching myself and ripping my hair out. You might as well just don't care about me. Maybe I won't tell anyone my problems.. I'll just keep it all inside! Sooo... you can all carry on laughing and having great lives while I suffer on my own and hurting myself. What the heck was I born for? I'm a mistake! I hardly have a boyfriend, I'm a boring person, I'm shy and nasty.I'm used for sex so I might as well become a prossie. I wish someone could punch me and strangle me. Yeah.. Just read this and think "what a sad *****" and carry on with your happy lives.

I feel like that too sometimes, but then I tell myself "Oh well, talking to myself" and move on.

[IceCreamKid]

You're welcome!

[Amoslass]

Hey HAppyCheeks,
I have days on here where noone replys to anything I've posted and I get grumpy about it, feel a bit rejected but, I live in a totally different time-zone so I have to expect it'll take a while.
And I have days where I feel like I have to answer EVERY. SINGLE. UNREAD. POST and it drives me mad because I feel gulity and sad for all those unread stories wafting around. Er...maybe my OCD is worse than I thought?

Then I have days where I don't give a damn and everyone's story is too much for me and exhausting. Then I hardly say anything.

I guess where I'm going with this is that we're only human, and even if we aren't posting we are thinking of each other. Truely!

Originally Posted by Amoslass

Hey HAppyCheeks,
I have days on here where noone replys to anything I've posted and I get grumpy about it, feel a bit rejected but, I live in a totally different time-zone so I have to expect it'll take a while.
And I have days where I feel like I have to answer EVERY. SINGLE. UNREAD. POST and it drives me mad because I feel gulity and sad for all those unread stories wafting around. Er...maybe my OCD is worse than I thought?

Then I have days where I don't give a damn and everyone's story is too much for me and exhausting. Then I hardly say anything.

I guess where I'm going with this is that we're only human, and even if we aren't posting we are thinking of each other. Truely!

Thanks for your reply At least I'm not alone.

[FeelingHopeful]

Im sorry too, i care ,sometimes im not sure what to say and think my advice maybe wont be as good as someone who maybe has been through it and i get shy, im around alot so if you ever wanna chat im here too.

[kikki27]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Is it because I'm an attention seeker? You lot have advice and I don't have much. I might as well suffer on my own, punching myself, pinching myself and ripping my hair out. You might as well just don't care about me. Maybe I won't tell anyone my problems.. I'll just keep it all inside! Sooo... you can all carry on laughing and having great lives while I suffer on my own and hurting myself. What the heck was I born for? I'm a mistake! I hardly have a boyfriend, I'm a boring person, I'm shy and nasty.I'm used for sex so I might as well become a prossie. I wish someone could punch me and strangle me. Yeah.. Just read this and think "what a sad *****" and carry on with your happy lives.

Hi happycheeks I dont come on online all the time because I have school and when I do come on the threads they dont always show up with the post so dont feel like that we are here for you and nobody is laughing at you my threads dont always get answered either

[Travelinglady]

Goodness, HappyCheeks! I'm so sorry your threads haven't gotten many responses. Please, please don't take it so personally, dear one. I know I just can't respond to all the threads people make, so I just pick the ones that appeal to me at the time. I just don't have time, for one thing. And I might not have responded to something of yours because my T is telling me to avoid any threads that deal with people's problems right now and most of the time I follow her advice. It's not that I don't care, but I'm having difficulty keeping my own head above water with all my own matters at the moment. I HAVE thought what a cute name you have chosen, by the way! It makes me smile every time I see it!

I don't always get many responses to my threads either.

You DO matter and we do care! Here's a hug: Please don't lose hope. See all the responses you're getting now?

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

Goodness, HappyCheeks! I'm so sorry your threads haven't gotten many responses. Please, please don't take it so personally, dear one. I know I just can't respond to all the threads people make, so I just pick the ones that appeal to me at the time. I just don't have time, for one thing. And I might not have responded to something of yours because my T is telling me to avoid any threads that deal with people's problems right now and most of the time I follow her advice. It's not that I don't care, but I'm having difficulty keeping my own head above water with all my own matters at the moment. I HAVE thought what a cute name you have chosen, by the way! It makes me smile every time I see it!

I don't always get many responses to my threads either.

You DO matter and we do care! Here's a hug: Please don't lose hope. See all the responses you're getting now?

If there were a way to special delivery a pair of waterwings for Payne and Happycheeks, I'd do it.

[Liberada]

(((happycheecks)))