[Evening]

I mentioned on the grrrr thread that I'm a little over my grandparents telling everyone every little thing about me. Well I decided to keep this new assistant manager job to myself, other than a few people, including my mother. the other day my grandfather asked me if I'd heard anything back about it and I said yes, but I'm not sharing any of the details of it to him because they can't keep it to themselves if they tried, and this is really not something I want everyone to know (because it's a BIG opportunity and if it doesn't work out I'm going to feel bad enough as it is within out everyone finding out I lost the job). I said the only person who knows is my mother, and other than that I'd rather keep it to myself. Well, as soon as they got in the car to leave, my grandfather turned to my mother and tried to get her to tell him! Thankfully she knows exactly what they are like and said she's not saying anything other than what I already said to him. I'm so damn mad about it, because this is EXACTLY what my point to him was! The fact they are SO damn nosy! If I want to tell my grandparents I will, but seeing as I can't even trust them to keep something even small to themselves, whether I ask or tell them, then they are not going to find out at all.
I can't even mention this job on Facebook because my grandfather reads all my comments, even if it's a comment on a friends status or wall that he's not friends with. He's even commented on statuses of people he doesn't know just because I commented on it.
I feel like I only have the choices of either being completely secretive of everything I do, or have EVERYBODY find out.

Someone please tell me I'm not the only one with family like this...

[Evening]

And I'd like to point out that I made a spelling mistake in the title....

[lonegael]

Evening, if you've read my posts, you know Typo is my middle name, last name and probably first name as well! Yes, I have relatives that have a hard time keeping their mouths shut, and I have recently realized that some of this is a passive aggressive move on their part. My mom does this in the guise of "helping my son understand" me, then trying to punish me by giving the silient treatment when I call her on it. Thank God, my Dad has weighed on on my side on this one, soething he doesn't oftern do, but it's hard to get her to stop in other instances.
My sister in law also has a way of trying to "manage " other people's realtionships by running to people with confidences given her by other family members so she can "fix" the problems that arise between folks; she has done this once to me and my husband and she is no longer someone I take into confidence. Ever. Her need to run the show is greater than either her respect for my need to manage my own affairs or her respect for my husband's feelings.
My mom I simply told her, to her reage, that my son has enough to manage with his brother's handikapp and my bipolar without her forcing more of it down his throat (not my exact words) I tried to explain it in terms of a kid at his time in development not having the resources to handle his mother's problems and take care of her; it is up to me to take care of him. This made her very angry, as she thinks it is character building for him to have to deal with this (Lord I'm starting to hyperventilate just hearing this) and I am simply picking on her. So, I have a deal with my dad to ease out of this area with her and discourage her hopping in and trying to engage my oldest in this type of conversation. He at least has a bit more practical understanding of what I am talking about.
So sorry that you have to deal with this Evening, but it might be best to ask your mom not to tell your grandparets, and then not even tell your grandparents that your mom knows. That way they can't pressure her until she breaks. Some people just can't handle their own mouths. HUGGGGSSSSSS!

[abience]

I have a sister that has to put out my families business on facebook every chance she gets! And not only does she post it on her wall, but she will also post it on our walls as well. I have had a very hard time with the passing of my father and they went to his house to pack it up and move his girlfriend of 20+ years down to MS and I just couldn't do it. I explained all this to her and by the time she got done posting all of this my entire life story regarding my extreme grief reaction and all to my fathers passing and not being there for my family, etc, etc., was posted everywhere! Needless to say after a sound lashing over the phone, she was quickly erased as a friend on facebook. Unfortunate to do that, but sometimes a persons business is their own business, and not the worlds. Nothing wrong with that.

A

[Evening]

Oh yeah the thought of deleting him has crossed my mind. I get a lot of the 'it's none of your business!' from my grandfather if I ask about someone (not in a gossipy way), but yet for them to tell everyone everything is fine??? Bollocks I say! I understand that families will talk, but if you've been asked not to talk about something to people, respect that!
Lonegael- I definitely told my mother to say nothing, I know she respects that because she equally shares my views. The only reason he knew my mother knew is because when he asked about it and I said I'm not discussing it with him she was standing there with us. She tried to defend me in a way by saying to him that sharing it with everyone drains the energy and excitement from the situation (which can definitely be true). I said to my grandfather that my mother knows, and other than that I'd rather keep it to myself for now. Then a minute later they jump in the car and he says to her 'so what's happening?' as thought she was just going to tell him! He obviously doesn't know my mother too well if he thinks she was going to tell him a word!

Oh just as I was typing this my grandfather commented on my Facebook status, so I said to him I heard he tried to get info out of my mother I told him I wanted to keep to myself, so he now knows that I know.

Man I really need to get off Facebook...