[lonely and scared]

I am going to a friends to do some zumba and basic exercise just so we can get fit, not to lose weight that will be a bonus. I told this to my mum and she says to me yeah look at that stomach of yours it will do you good

[Evening]

I KNOOOW how much that sucks!!! My mother has made a few remarks about my appearance too. We joined a gym together once, and we went to work out. I had some baggy track pants on, and on our way back I was walking ahead of her, and she said 'your butt is SO saggy!'. I was so humiliated, and I was on 16 or 17 at the time. Even though it was just my pants, it still hurt because her remark was intended at my body.

Sometimes the people you expect to support you most are the ones that hurt you the most. If she keeps making those remarks I wouldn't hold it past yourself to point out that she is being really nasty.

[whenwillitend]

I can relate too. When I was about 23, and weighed a whopping 116 pounds (at 5'10", or 178cm), she told me my thighs were too fat for the jeans I was wearing (Levi's 501's).

I don't know why people feel the need to attack other's appearances. It's wrong and hurtful. Especially coming from the one person who's supposed to love you unconditionally.

[Elysium]

I'm sooo sorry that your Mother said this to you!! That was really inappropriate.

It sounds like you were able to let it roll off your back at the time, and that was probably the best although you can't un-ring a bell and words like that have a way of staying with you.

One time, my mother said something similar to me about my backside. We are both overweight and I had lost some weight and mentioned that I was going to the gym and she said "Yeah, your butt is looking pretty chunky there." At the time, letting things roll of my back wasn't my forte but my response got her to realize that she had been inappropriate when I fired back "Yeah, I know, but thank God it doesn't look like yours!!"

After that, she didn't make another comment about my weight or my body for a long time....but alas...the comments returned. I hope you know that you are just fine the way you are and I applaud you for being physically active. Whether you're doing it for weight loss, toning, or fun, it's a healthy thing to do for yourself, so GOOD JOB!!

(((((((((((((((((((lonely and scared))))))))))))))))))))I'm so sorry.

[Sabrina]

I'm sorry your mother hurt you like that. I am overweight and although my mother acknowledges it, she has never ever said anything unkind. I am very blessed.