She is psycho or evil?

But, maybe their relationship isn't like yours was. Besides, maybe she was being passive-aggressive about you, rather than him; she knew you would make sure he was up and maybe she resents that, either wishing their relationship was more exclusive or pushing her luck by thinking if AJ has a problem, he'll blame you since you are "in charge" of his getting up in time.

It is small-minded, a bit ugly, but she's young, remember. I think some young people feel they have to make others look bad so they look better; whether it was you or AJ she was aiming at, it was petty but not really worth your fretting over? AJ is responsible for getting himself up on time when all is said and done.

He wasn't late was he? I think if he was working late the bosses won't mind a few minutes late; mine never did after a long period of hard/late work/overtime.

Interesting way of thinking of it, Perna... But, I'd think, if she resented me getting him up, she'd make sure he was up before I made that first call??? She would do it first and then I wouldn't have to, which to me would be great... But she doesn't wake him....

I don't know why it happened the way it did... TO be honest, I don't think she resents me. We get along pretty good.. I'm not over involved in her life with AJ.. I pretty much leave them alone..

Actually she is really sensitive too.. She let AJ's dog downstairs when she came down to do laundry and he peed in my bathroom.. AJ heard me telling Guinney to come out of the bathroom so he came down hollering at the dog.. AJ's g/f kept saying she ways sorry and I kept telling her it was ok that it wasn't her fault and tears filled her eyes.. I said I am not upset.. Those things happen .. I'm not blaming you... and she hugged me and said "i love you"...

Think to be honest... it is hard living with people and we are all moody people which makes life here sometimes colorful, to say the least....Think the key is to realize no one person under this room is perfect. Think it boils down to adjusting. What makes it easier is there is a door that divides the upstairs from the downstairs..........I have my space.... AJ and his g/f has theirs.... I don't intrude on them ever... Since the kitchen is in the basement, they are always welcome at any time to come downstairs...

I dunno..... the answers.... guess we will have to figure them out when "stuff" arises...

ya know... to be honest... it was as "nasty" for me to even sugguest she was evil/psycho as what she did..... Since the "fire" has cooled down, I feel bad I used such words as evil and psycho.. I was angry.... It is normal to get angry.. But name calling isn't a nice way to deal with anger. We all need to deal better with anger...

Gosh, I am as guilty as the next one... AM just glad I didn't use those ugly words to her face...I didn't say anything to her whatsoever about what happened the other day... SO I didn't vent at her... I vented on the boards... Which in one is good because I didn't hurt her feelings... and I got out my anger..... but I am sure there are much better ways to do it than the way I did.. I just need to find a better way to deal with anger................