[Indie'sOK]

Hi all,

I ordered a silver necklace from Etsy on July 18th. The seller that makes the necklaces lives in the UK and told me that shipments to the US usually take about a week to 10 days. It's now been three weeks since I placed the order and still have not received a package. I contacted the seller on August 3rd, who tracked it online and told me that the website says it is in New York (perhaps the ISC?). She sent the package using Royal Mail International Signed For...I'm assuming this is the UK equivalent of USPS? I would track it myself but have lost the tracking number. Could it be stuck in customs in New York?

I don't know what to do as it is probably lost in the system by now. Has anyone ever experienced this?

[lonegael]

Contact the Postal service and give them what info you have. It might have ended up in "Dead Letter" for some reason. IF they can get a handle on the people who sent it and where, they might be able to find it for you in New York. Good Luck!

[lonegael]

Also, Check the Website for Royal Mail. They might be able to help you also.

[Indie'sOK]

Thanks lonegael. The seller sent me the tracking number...apparently it's stuck in New York in customs, just as I figured. It's been there since August 2nd.

[No Fuse No Flame]

Customs has probably got it. I had a aquarium filter part from EHIEM that was held up in customs for 3 weeks. EHIEM is in Canada I'm in Louisiana.
I went through customs at the Canadian border they check my trunk and there was a box in my trunk with a freinds name on it. It was just printer paper. The agent confiscated it because it wasn't mine. My freind was behind me by about 5 mins. he proved it was his and the agent had to give him his stuff. Guess he'll have to get his(agent) free paper somewhere else.LOL

Little did they no wild mannered clark crazy was going to use the plastic pipe and plastic valve to construct his very own nuclear reactor to make hotdogs!!!

[unaluna]

so what now, indie?

[No Fuse No Flame]

Hurry up and wait.

[lonegael]

AAARGH!!!!!

[Indie'sOK]

Who knows? Thanks for your responses. The tracker update hasn't changed.

I ordered a silver puzzle piece pendant to symbolize autism awareness. Then I read online that a lot of people on the spectrum hate the puzzle thing because it somehow supports the eradication of neurodiversity. I don't understand this. ASD is a puzzle - it's complex, as is any mental health issue or disability/difference...whatever you want to call it. There's a whole lot we don't know about it, so yeah, it is a complicated thing. How this relates back to the puzzle logo is beyond me.

I still like my necklace anyway.

I think for many on the spectrum the puzzle piece indicates 'the quest for a cure.' It seems to be associated with a certain charity, that is a proponent for that discovery.

The piece represents (at least for me) the great difficulty an individual with an ASD has in fitting in with society. The difficulty or inability to connect with others is the most challenging aspect of having an ASD.

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by Didgee Eeyou

The piece represents (at least for me) the great difficulty an individual with an ASD has in fitting in with society. The inability to connect with others is the most challenging aspect of having an ASD.

I like the way you describe this. Thanks for replying Didgee - I was hoping for some input by members with ASD as well.

[lonegael]

Scince I have a son with Kenners Autism, I can understand both, and I would say that while I am all for neurodiversity, in some cases, a cure is needed, just because in some cases of autism, the disorder also causes developmental delay to the point that self care is greatly impacted and stimulus processing can be PAINFUL. If these aspects can be better treated/prevented, then I am all for it, because I know my son does not enjoy the results, regardless how loving or willing to understand we and his teachers are.

That's just me. A puzzle piece can be interpreted in many ways, and I always thought more it meant a search to find what was happening in the first place. A cure shouldn't be used unless the person involved thinks it's necessary. If a person with ASD is functioning well, then there is apparently nothing to fix, right? Just as a person with ADHD who had learned their own way to function with the disorder might well choose to continue to manage it alone, and this is also fine. We should be tolerant enough to accept these folks and not make life tougher for them than it has to be. But a kid like my son is affected by his disorder in different ways, and might need more or different help, just as some kids with ADHD need medication.

Part of the puzzle is sometimes knowing just how to respond when confronted by some of the debates around this syndrome. HUGGGSSSSS

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by lonegael

Scince I have a son with Kenners Autism, I can understand both, and I would say that while I am all for neurodiversity, in some cases, a cure is needed, just because in some cases of autism, the disorder also causes developmental delay to the point that self care is greatly impacted and stimulus processing can be PAINFUL. If these aspects can be better treated/prevented, then I am all for it, because I know my son does not enjoy the results, regardless how loving or willing to understand we and his teachers are.

That's just me. A puzzle piece can be interpreted in many ways, and I always thought more it meant a search to find what was happening in the first place. A cure shouldn't be used unless the person involved thinks it's necessary. If a person with ASD is functioning well, then there is apparently nothing to fix, right? Just as a person with ADHD who had learned their own way to function with the disorder might well choose to continue to manage it alone, and this is also fine. We should be tolerant enough to accept these folks and not make life tougher for them than it has to be. But a kid like my son is affected by his disorder in different ways, and might need more or different help, just as some kids with ADHD need medication.

Part of the puzzle is sometimes knowing just how to respond when confronted by some of the debates around this syndrome. HUGGGSSSSS

I agree. Even though my case is rather mild, that isn't to say that it doesn't negatively affect my life. It was much worse when I was younger. I grew up with the impression that my social difficulties, sound sensitivities, and usually being the last person to understand a joke were all just a part of my weirdness and were to be hidden if I wanted to gain social acceptance. Take my sensitive nervous system and tendency to take personal jokes literally, add bullying to the mix, and you get an anxiety disorder. Most people on the spectrum have some form of anxiety issue, though, so it's not surprising that I developed one too. When my therapist first suggested that I might be on the spectrum, I didn't believe her. Part of it felt really shameful. But I did my research regardless, as did my parents, and though I don't fit ALL the diagnostic criteria, we're pretty sure my therapist's suspicions are correct. It explains all the little things social anxiety never could, like my struggles with empathy and special interests. I still have a really hard time dealing with the social aspect of the condition, which is where my therapist comes in. I'm afraid of how these things are going to affect my life in college. Since I get overwhelmed very easily, I've decided to stay home for the first couple years of college.

I understand what you mean lonegael. It would be difficult to watch anyone go through pain, especially a child with special needs. There's a certain organization that is generally hated by the ASD community. Those with Asperger's especially reject the way it pushes for a cure, since we don't see ourselves as diseased or sick. It's a difference. Nevertheless, I do understand why you feel differently, and I probably would too if it were my child. I can speak for myself, but the same is not always true for those with low-functioning autism. Still, I wouldn't trust that to be done by this certain organization. As Didgee also mentioned, they are the reason many people on the spectrum hate the puzzle logo.

[seeker1950]

So...have you rec'd your order? I have sent many packages to my daughter who was in Turkmenistan. The first one I sent was thru International Priority Mail, and took months. I gave up that it was going to arrive. After that, I sent all packages via "Express Mail," and they arrived usually within a week. It was costly. Like, +$100 for each shipment. I would not expect this from shipping from the UK. I hope you have rec'd your order.
Patty

[Indie'sOK]

No, I haven't received it yet. I'm going to wait until next week before filing a claim with USPS. I'm not sure if it would count as an international or domestic claim because the problem is on the US end.

I did some more thinking.

The piece can represent a lot more than seeking cures, and the mysterious nature of autism. It can symbolize the self discovery and acceptance that accompanies finding one's place in the world.

Life is a puzzle. Every individual (not only those with ASDs) is a puzzle piece. As we navigate life, we discover where we fit at our own time and place in this big puzzle. Life for an individual on the spectrum is often filled with feelings of difference and alienation, so they never seem to fit, no matter how hard they try. Once the autistic person accepts their autism, their puzzle piece fits in the world, too.