[beauflow]

Debating with self if self help or general chat....

I read this article a few days ago when I noticed it..
Reprogram your brain to improve relationships and heal past wounds

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfu...l-past-wounds/

Of course this interested me very much... this is something that in away I strive for....
OK-- The whole article should be read--- but I am taking these two things out of it--

Here is something they have created that you can begin today in as little as 5 minutes a day or more. The idea is to look over the lovingkindness practice below and write it down. You don’t have to finish it, just do it for whatever time you allot. Whatever judgments arise in your mind right now, just set that aside and allow your experience to be your teacher.


May I be healthy and strong. May I be safe and protected. May I be peaceful and free from mental, emotional, and physical suffering. May I be happy and joyful. May I be patient and understanding. May I be loving, kind, and gentle in my ways. May I be courageous in dealing with difficulties, and always meet with success. May I be diligent and committed to my spiritual practice, and to helping others along their path. May my True Nature shine through, and onto all beings I encounter.

May every person and living being in the entire universe on all planes of existence be healthy and strong. May they be safe and protected. May they be peaceful and free from mental, emotional, and physical suffering. May they be happy and joyful. May they be patient and understanding. May they be loving, kind, and gentle in their ways. May they be courageous in dealing with difficulties, and always meet with success. May they be diligent and committed to their spiritual practice, and to helping others along their path. May their True Nature shine through, and onto all beings they encounter.

OK-- The whole article should be read---
but i do realize with in myself, that I am able to do these two things, have many times in the past on my own said similar things- Maybe not the exact wording but the idea of "may all be well good, and to their full potential of what they are able to be"-- however I can not 'keep' it..

Even as I read the article I thought how Nice this is, how great it is to think that .. however it is a bit of a fairy land..

Perhaps that is my problem here-- is that it is saying to just think positively for others-- it does not mean that world is this way...
I know another problem is that I will have memories to debate this as I read it, at times when trying to do this at times of past things and Some Current things that have happened to me and think to myself-- "well that was one issue I had with wishing everyone well, searching for only the good in them and dismissing the bad, and I got used, abused, very hurt, in some cases 'damaged' in away "-
- I realize as I write that, the issue was not wishing them well it was boundaries and manipulative behavior from others that were toxic and people being abusive and hurt me in the past and a few today which I try to hold as best as I can now days..

I like this article's idea, or as I have interpreted it-- to think positive and well for others-- which is something that I learned on my own to let go of a lot of anger and pain with my own mother... These days, I wish her well, she has a lot of issues, and I wish her well and to get the help that she needs to be better for her self...(a very flip of the coin of how she is to be honest and perhaps that is one aspect that has helped me to be this way, due to when I was younger, I loathed her so much and used her as an example of who I did not want to be, and what I wanted to be).. Now the reality of that is not that of what I wish, she is still a very troubled woman that hurts others still in some very damaging ways and in some dangerous ways (i hear from sisters of course due to I can not handle the woman).

Perhaps it is to remind myself, not to think of so much of reality of what I can not change-- but of what I am able to do in my thinking pattern?

IDK -- i have been thinking about this off and on the last few days and wanted to post.. and right now I can't sleep and have time to get some thoughts out--

what ya'll think?

I'm so preprogrammed to go straight to STINKIN' THINKIN' whenever I get frustrated or hopeless or find myself despairing that no matter how much I try doing the "Good Thoughts" routine I end up falling flat on my face over and over and over again ...

But, I do keep trying ...

Perhaps one of these days, if I'm lucky, those old negative tapes that automatically kick in every time I face a challenge or setback will permanently find themselves deprogrammed and I'll miraculously find myself reprogrammed with some new positive ones ...

[beauflow]

Originally Posted by Pfrog

I'm so preprogrammed to go straight to STINKIN' THINKIN' whenever I get frustrated or hopeless or find myself despairing that no matter how much I try doing the "Good Thoughts" routine I end up falling flat on my face over and over and over again ...

But, I do keep trying ...

Perhaps one of these days, if I'm lucky, those old negative tapes that automatically kick in every time I face a challenge or setback will permanently find themselves deprogrammed and I'll miraculously find myself reprogrammed with some new positive ones ...

Oh Pfrog when flustered and frustrated/angry I am there as well-- SOME days though I can calm down with the STOP step back and think a little if fact or opinion... Other times i can go on days on end with horrible thoughts that that Stop process does not work...

I think a lot of this is practice --- i really do. but I think it is also some what (for at least some, i.e. me too) also a struggle to reprogram..

lol reprogram our brains.. guess we are getting closer to cyborgs than what I thought at first

[seeker1950]

Beau!!! Thank you for sharing this with us.
Last night I was so hurt and angry with a coworker who had said some really hurtful things to me, "dissing" the job I do, like I'm of no value.
I actually tried to call this person and tell her how angry and hurt I was. I must have had a guardian angel watching over me, since the call(s) went unanswered. Now, looking back on it, I will be much better off to just let it go...and adopt some of the advice in the quotes you posted.

Interestingly, and not really off-topic, I am currently listening to an audio reading of The Brothers Karamazov by Dostoevsky. Who woulda thought that this book would address such a topic, but it does! As I began listening to it at bedtime, the very topic was described in detail with one of the main characters. It was comforting. Dostoevsky is a genius!
Patty