[radio_flyer]

Grrrrrrrrrr... Grumble, Grumble, Grumble..Geesh this is why there is conflict with my sister....I dare her.. I put her right in her place too..

AJ is looking for another job. He had a job interview today and when AJ came home, he wasn't smiling. All he said is he was all over the place during the interview and I don't want to talk about it. Which means it did not go well.......

SO, I mentioned it to my sister and she laughed and said something to the effect, he has been on several interviews and he should be doing better on interviews. AND I told her this was his first in person interview.
Then she goes on "mocking and laughing" that AJ is a 33 year old man that has nothing.. lalalalala.....

And I said Do you laugh at your kids when things don't go well. Well she said her "KIDS" were lucky, , they have been working for years...I said so AJ only has 2 years under his belt, working in the "computer" field. I won't laugh or take away any of his efforts. SO he is a late bloomer. He is trying.

She was mocking my son... how dare her.....Like her kids were perfect. This I guess is where the "princess sister" comes in.. If you were to talk to my sister, she would tell you how wonderful she was in her younger days....... WELL, my oldest brother told me my sister was a hellion in her "yonger days". But according to my sister she was perfect..... ha!!

I told her "do not laugh at my son". He is trying and I will stand behind him and encourage him...

There is much more she said, seems all I want to say is grrrrrrrrrrr... SO your kids are perfect and mine are worthless.... I put her in her place. DO NOT mock my son.............................I won't tolerate it...........

I hate it when "family" cuts my kids down when their kids went through their trials and errors in life, and they seem to forget their kids weren't/aren't perfect............DON"T HURT ME OR MY KIDS with your ugly words......... GRRRRRRRRRRR I don't need that kind of family....

So sorry! Tensions rage high in a time like this! Let your anger boil but do no harm, money come and money go. Family don't grow on trees like money does, my friend.

I am sorry radio

Here is the rant thread if needed in future

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showt...ht=Rant+thread

[IowaFarmGal]

I don't think it's inappropriate to cut toxic family members out of your life if you can't get across to them to treat you and your family with respect. Hugs (((radio-flyer)))

[di meliora]

Be well, radio_flyer.

[Kaoilfhionn]

Originally Posted by radio_flyer

Grrrrrrrrrr... Grumble, Grumble, Grumble..Geesh this is why there is conflict with my sister....I dare her.. I put her right in her place too..

AJ is looking for another job. He had a job interview today and when AJ came home, he wasn't smiling. All he said is he was all over the place during the interview and I don't want to talk about it. Which means it did not go well.......

SO, I mentioned it to my sister and she laughed and said something to the effect, he has been on several interviews and he should be doing better on interviews. AND I told her this was his first in person interview.
Then she goes on "mocking and laughing" that AJ is a 33 year old man that has nothing.. lalalalala.....

And I said Do you laugh at your kids when things don't go well. Well she said her "KIDS" were lucky, , they have been working for years...I said so AJ only has 2 years under his belt, working in the "computer" field. I won't laugh or take away any of his efforts. SO he is a late bloomer. He is trying.

She was mocking my son... how dare her.....Like her kids were perfect. This I guess is where the "princess sister" comes in.. If you were to talk to my sister, she would tell you how wonderful she was in her younger days....... WELL, my oldest brother told me my sister was a hellion in her "yonger days". But according to my sister she was perfect..... ha!!

I told her "do not laugh at my son". He is trying and I will stand behind him and encourage him...

There is much more she said, seems all I want to say is grrrrrrrrrrr... SO your kids are perfect and mine are worthless.... I put her in her place. DO NOT mock my son.............................I won't tolerate it...........

I hate it when "family" cuts my kids down when their kids went through their trials and errors in life, and they seem to forget their kids weren't/aren't perfect............DON"T HURT ME OR MY KIDS with your ugly words......... GRRRRRRRRRRR I don't need that kind of family....

It took me a couple of years of therapy to work through the damage my sister did to me. (She's 15 years older than me. She has no interest in not being sociopathic). I made a decision 20 years ago, with the help of a good sponsor, therapist and my own recovery, to let her go with love. She's toxic. She enjoys emotionally destroying people. I've just removed her from my line of fire. I have not regretted that decision for one minute of the last 22 years. I'm the youngest of 6 children in my family. We have never been close. In the beginning I thought it would be great if we all got better in recovery and we could be a happy, loving family. They had no interest in that. I have continued to work on myself, and I have no regrets, no sadness about it. What I have is a whole lot of gratitude that for some reason I was the one that was given this tremendous gift. She is the sociopath that, as a child, I was taught a very unhealthy, abusive version of love. She is the one that made the behaviour familiar to me, and I have been trying to undo that damage for most of my adult life. I am still in a relationship with someone that's bipolar/sociopathic. I don't like it at all, but it's an unconscious familiarity that still hasn't healed. My 3 children range in age from 33 to 17. She has seen them twice in her life, at a wedding and a funeral. I did for my children what no one did for me. I protected them from her. I have never regretted that decision, nor have I ever had even a second of feeling sad or sorry for myself. I'm at peace. I let my family go with love, turned them over to God, and he's been taking care of them ever since. I learned in AA, from a handful of amazing women, how to finally be a good daughter, mother, sister, friend and wife....and that my job with my children is only 3 things: 1. To love them. 2. To teach them. and 3. To protect them. So far, it's turned out well. They know what it feels like to be loved. My son is married with 3 kids, and is a great husband and father, has a masters degree. My older daughter is 28, bachelors degree, and is following her dream of playing music. She isn't financially wealthy, but she's one of the happiest people I know. And my youngest, 17, is someone that I admire and like very much, not just love. I will not be around anyone - especially family, that I will take a chance on my children being hurt. I didn't have a voice when I was a child, but I've protected them and helped myself heal by being theirs.

[radio_flyer]

Kaoilfhionn- Sounds like your kids are doing great.. AM sorry you went through so much with your sister. And yes, I agree, there are times when it is best to let "toxic" folks in our lives go.. We have to do what is best for us..

My sister and I have too much fun laughing over the phone to ever think of letting her go. Maybe she was having one of those "fussy" or moody days that upset me. Am sure I've upset her at times too....

I only posted what happend and that I was upset to "let it out" and not let it fester inside.. I've found when I let things build up inside it only makes me ill.. So sometimes just writing about it lets it go.. Then it doesn't grow into something bigger or worse.

We all have our days.. And yes, she upset me with what she said about AJ. I let it go and we are back to laughing for hours on the phone. She really is a good person and she is funny too.....OK, so she has an "attitude" at times... Can't hate her for that.. AM told I've got an "attitude" at times, too.....I love her.. I forgive her too. She really doesn't mean any harm.. What can I say.. Other than I do feel better that I wrote about it to let it gooooo..