Excluding people

Mar 16, 2013, 05:08 PM

it's hard to say i'm sorry.

Mar 16, 2013, 05:12 PM

In order to have good, healthy, meaningful friendships you're going to have to work on that. It's important to have friends who can apologize when they are wrong or hurt you. If a supposed friend of mine hurt me and didn't apologize for the sole reason that it's "hard to apologize" I would totally reevaluate my friendship and most likely come to the conclusion that they aren't a friend worth keeping!

Mar 16, 2013, 05:13 PM

people have hurt me in the past and they never apologized once.

Mar 16, 2013, 05:14 PM

I mean none of this to say that it's okay for people to leave you out or hurt you. Sometimes high school kids are just mean and we can't always change that. Just do your best at being the best you that you can be and you will find friends who appreciate who you are. Friendships can't be forced so getting these kids to include you anyway doesn't necessarily mean they will be real friends to you like you deserve.

Mar 16, 2013, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by heyitsme7

people have hurt me in the past and they never apologized once.

So you should realize how terrible it feels to be hurt and not told sorry from the person. Use your knowledge of that to make sure you don't make others feel that way, too.

Mar 16, 2013, 05:29 PM

alright i will. plus i tend to dwell on things too much like when i was a kid and i got bullied all the time by people of my own race. i hated them with a passion and i wish i could just somehow fit in. everybody else was just fine to get along with except my own kind. when i found that others hated my own, i was all happy. it also gave me a lot of self-hate. I did not want to be a member of this disgusting, venomous ethnic group who won't even acknowledge me as their own. for some reason, people who tend to have something in common with me are the ones that find me weird and just want to dissociate from me, so i always feel like i should just keep some things to myself and not tell them.

Mar 16, 2013, 05:35 PM

all i can think of is i never get help, people always leave me out in teh cold... when someone helps me out, I'm ecstatic for a moment and then i return my present state of mind, which is that life goes back to normal and stuff like that. i'm too preoccupied with my negative thoughts. i need to get out of this state of mind now. i can't live on like this forever.

Mar 16, 2013, 05:52 PM

You need professional help...

Mar 16, 2013, 06:11 PM

you bet i do. i have already spoken to a therapist about this and he said i should go into therapy but then i thought to myself should i because there's this one therapist i had who just was not helpful at all and it seemed like she wanted to keep me in there for as long as possible. she got mad at me because i was not showing up as much. i mean, it seems like people want me to do things just so that they can benefit themselves. idk, maybe.

Mar 16, 2013, 06:11 PM

present company excepted.

Mar 16, 2013, 06:20 PM

yeah and once this therapist told me that if i did not make friends early on, i would not have any because as a person ages, people start to go their separate ways and if you know them early on and become close to them, chances are you might be able to maintain those friendships.i told my mother that and she got mad at me and she thought that the therapist was being more of a burden than a help because she was supposed to help me with my problems, and in addition, guide me with some friendship advice, which my mother did not know about. i got mad at my mother for no reason and said she did not let me go out on the weekends on my own and then my mother said to me that this is a time for you to get an education, not to socialize, and now that i think about it, who knows where these guys might take me? so yeah, i feel like my mother was concerned and that the therapist was simply trying to drive a wedge between my mother and I.

Mar 16, 2013, 06:22 PM

so far i have not made many close friends. it's hard to because i don't know these people really well and they don't stay after school often and i just don't know who to trust.