[Roba]

If a peson complaines to another person about things that they have no control over is it consided bullying ?

[catsrhelm]

No. Bullying is being teased, picked on, and singled out for being "not in with whoever considers normal". (My defininition.) When a person complains to another person about something that one has no control over, it is called ranting.

[big zero]

Who has no control over those things? The complainer or the complainee? (is that even a word?)

Do you mean this kind of situation?
Person A has a bad stutter. Person B complains to person A that he's really bothered by the stutter.

If so, that seems rather mean to me.

[Roba]

no control means one person complaing to another about somebody else paying there bills and you have to give the person who owes the bills the money to pay the bills that you have no resosability of paying this persons bills nor does the person doing the complaining.

[Roba]

The person that does the complaining is also trying to live my life for me.

[big zero]

So let me see if I understand this:
Someone else complains to you that a third person is paying their bills although they have no obligation to do so, and asking you to give them money to pay that third person. Is that correct?

In that case, nah, that's not bullying. That's just being obnoxious I guess.

[Roba]

The third person is paying the bills but the other person is complaining to me about the bills and I end up giving the third person money to stop the other person from complaining to me about it.

[Nicks_Nose]

Billing is an issue many people complain about. Whether they feel they are not getting the service they expected for what they are being charge, or if the fees went up recently on their services wihtout notification, or simply extra money is not available because bills take up the whole income. It does not matter if I am footing all the costs of my bills or if I have help from let's say...my parents paying part of it...I can still gripe about the high costs of bills.

If a third party agreed to pay in a certain amount toward the bills but things are tight and the third party pays a little less or if suddenly bills have gone up and the third party has to contribute a bit more, could be a stressful topic. If the third person paying is just doing this out of kindness and runs into a tough time and can't help as they usually do, but the original person collecting the gift still needs that help...it could cause stresss to be receiving less than usual.

People need to be able to vent when they feel stressed about something and it may just be the situation itself that is the stressor, but the ability to discuss all people involved in the situation does not mean blame as much as probably general frustration the situation is at hand.

[big zero]

Do you have any kind of responsibility towards either of them? If this is too stressful, you could consider cutting one or the other loose... or both, why not?

If that's not an option, you might want to sit them both down and tell them how this is affecting you.

[Roba]

I have no responsibility to eaither one of them but I hear all the complaining from one person who is not responsible for the others bills. The person that is responsible to pay the bills is the one to pay them not the person that has no responsiblity complaining to another person who has no responsiblity on paying the bills.

[beadlady29]

complaining no matter what the reason is still much different then bullying, wherein someone is deliberately trying to hurt you.

[Nicks_Nose]

If you have nothing to do with this issue then kindly ask them to leave you out of it.

[capsgirl19]

Originally Posted by Roba

If a peson complaines to another person about things that they have no control over is it consided bullying ?

It depends -- does he/she know you can't control it? If they do, then I would consider it bullying. If not, try making them aware that you can't control it and hopefully they'll apologize.

[brokenhearted</3]

good luck i hope it goes well