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Apr 26, 2013, 08:22 PM
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I ran into a friend of my middle son’s today. She was all worked up, “just wait until you hear this.” Long story short a woman was trying to specify someone (which turned out to be my son) and ended up saying “you know, the gay one.” He works with two other people that share is name.
I said “OK” waiting for the offensive comment that had her all worked up. That was it. She asked why I wasn’t angry. Why would I be? He is gay. He’s also tall, has curly hair and brown eyes (all the same traits that the other two men that work with him have.) Did she say or imply something derogatory I asked? No. She was trying to explain who she was talking about, my son had one quality that set him apart from the other two, he is gay. Why was I supposed to get upset about this? Am I missing something?
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Apr 26, 2013, 08:39 PM
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Well - I think it's ridiculous myself - but there are still some that view being gay as a big problem - all I can think of is that's how that one thought, and then when there was no reaction at all it confused that one?
I don't know, but that almost sounds funny the way you describe it. |
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Apr 26, 2013, 09:18 PM
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Her issue. Her problem. Don't waste your time thinking about it.
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Apr 26, 2013, 09:33 PM
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(((AAAAA))) - it could be taken this way but you seem fine. You're a wonderful mother.
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Apr 26, 2013, 09:54 PM
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She kind of sounds like a drama queen, like she really wanted you to get worked up so she could get swept up in the drama.
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Apr 27, 2013, 03:01 PM
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I'm tired, there is a lot going on and I do not need to search for drama these days, it finds me all by itself. I do not think the woman she was talking about intended it to be an insult, she said it to distinquish my son from the other two people working there.
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Apr 28, 2013, 01:19 AM
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Some people are oversensitive about stuff like that, so I guess she thought you would be, too.
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Apr 29, 2013, 09:11 AM
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If it was only meant to distinguish him apart from the others, perhaps it wasn't meant as an insult.
Either way, I agree; I wouldn't give it any thought. It's 2013. People need to get over it.
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Apr 30, 2013, 02:16 AM
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For a minute I was over thinking this. I was going over over it in my mind. For a minute I got angry for her bringing it up! The thought process was "does she think that this is something to be ashamed of? Something to keep a secret? Is this why she thinks it's a big deal?"
This could drive a person insane. I think she was just trying to create trouble.
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