I am sick of people dragging me along places but then I get ignored. For example, someone or a group of people will really get me to go somewhere with them, like out to eat or watch a movie, but when I go with them, they completely ignore me even when I try engaging in the conversation. That's why I don't accept invitations very often anymore and it makes me feel like they just do it out of pity or obligation to be nice, especially since in the past when people did this, I would later find out they never wanted me to tag along in the first place. Really hate it when people do that stuff, kind of like playing mind games or emotional games in a way. Don't understand why they do this.

[The_little_didgee]

People used to do this to me. I think it is part of adolescence. A lot of people feel insecure during those years and don't want to attend movies and so on alone.

I got around this by refusing to socialize with three or more people.

Originally Posted by The_little_didgee

People used to do this to me. I think it is part of adolescence. A lot of people feel insecure during those years and don't want to attend movies and so on alone.

I got around this by refusing to socialize with three or more people.

Makes sense, I have started to do that myself. I don't hang out with more than three people at a time either unless it is like some sort of club function.

Originally Posted by LR15

I am sick of people dragging me along places but then I get ignored. For example, someone or a group of people will really get me to go somewhere with them, like out to eat or watch a movie, but when I go with them, they completely ignore me even when I try engaging in the conversation. That's why I don't accept invitations very often anymore and it makes me feel like they just do it out of pity or obligation to be nice, especially since in the past when people did this, I would later find out they never wanted me to tag along in the first place. Really hate it when people do that stuff, kind of like playing mind games or emotional games in a way. Don't understand why they do this.

You sound just like me. The only difference is I don't get dragged to, but i ask tehm and they're like oh sure. Then when I get there, they're having a conversation with their friends and i'm just like i wish i can boot some people off the list, like ask them to leave or something. it's like when you complain about it, they're like nobody asked you to come along.

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

You sound just like me. The only difference is I don't get dragged to, but i ask tehm and they're like oh sure. Then when I get there, they're having a conversation with their friends and i'm just like i wish i can boot some people off the list, like ask them to leave or something. it's like when you complain about it, they're like nobody asked you to come along.

Exactly the same here, hate that. Now it ges to the point if it happens and I can leave, I actually do leave, like I'll politely say bye and leave because they obviously don't want me there.

Originally Posted by LR15

Exactly the same here, hate that. Now it ges to the point if it happens and I can leave, I actually do leave, like I'll politely say bye and leave because they obviously don't want me there.

Even if you do say bye to them they'll still be doing what they're doing, like talking to their friends or just watching the movie and pretend you didn't say anything.

Exactly, or they will say goodbye in a very excited manner, like they are glad you are leaving.

Originally Posted by LR15

Exactly, or they will say goodbye in a very excited manner, like they are glad you are leaving.

these a-holes.

You got it.

[jan16th]

Originally Posted by LR15

I am sick of people dragging me along places but then I get ignored. For example, someone or a group of people will really get me to go somewhere with them, like out to eat or watch a movie, but when I go with them, they completely ignore me even when I try engaging in the conversation. That's why I don't accept invitations very often anymore and it makes me feel like they just do it out of pity or obligation to be nice, especially since in the past when people did this, I would later find out they never wanted me to tag along in the first place. Really hate it when people do that stuff, kind of like playing mind games or emotional games in a way. Don't understand why they do this.

It is hurtful to find out you are somebodys social charity case. I would decline the next invitation and tell them why . Maybe this site would be a better use of your time . Good Luck !!

Originally Posted by jan16th

It is hurtful to find out you are somebodys social charity case. I would decline the next invitation and tell them why . Maybe this site would be a better use of your time . Good Luck !!

Exactly, they are obviously doing it out of pity or as a back up friend in case the other friends leave early. I hate it and yeah I no longer accept invitations unless I'm sure I won't be treated that way, but usually I am so if I do accept an invitation, I only do it in places where I can just easily walk away, like the school cafeteria rather than somewhere off campus.