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Old Sep 10, 2013, 09:20 PM
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Is it egoistic to say you're a hero for like, saving a litter of kitties from a train that was about to run over them? I've been told Heroes usually deny theyr heroes which make them true heroes, but does a slight personality change really affect it? Isn't it true that a hero did save someone and admits he or she or it is a hero? Is it bad?

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Old Sep 10, 2013, 09:48 PM
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No, I wouldn't say it's bad. Modesty is a valued quality but not everyone is modest and there's nothing wrong with that.

The difference between someone who is and isn't a hero, in my honest opinion, is why they do good deed. Doing them because you want to be thought of as a hero and not because you truly care about the person/people/animals you're helping is different than doing them because you truly want to help the person/people/animals.

Nevertheless, in either case, someone was saved. So, it certainly isn't a bad thing despite the motives. Hero is kind of a subjective term. But I think the whole 'true heroes are always modest' thing is wrong. Many of them are. But certainly there are people who do good things because they truly care yet want some recognition for doing good things.
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Old Sep 10, 2013, 11:17 PM
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No, I wouldn't say it's bad. Modesty is a valued quality but not everyone is modest and there's nothing wrong with that.

The difference between someone who is and isn't a hero, in my honest opinion, is why they do good deed. Doing them because you want to be thought of as a hero and not because you truly care about the person/people/animals you're helping is different than doing them because you truly want to help the person/people/animals.

Nevertheless, in either case, someone was saved. So, it certainly isn't a bad thing despite the motives. Hero is kind of a subjective term. But I think the whole 'true heroes are always modest' thing is wrong. Many of them are. But certainly there are people who do good things because they truly care yet want some recognition for doing good things.
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Old Sep 11, 2013, 03:02 AM
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I'd say it depends just how you feel about what you're saying. If you're actually thinking you're a hero, an idol, a true person, a God, superior than everyone else, etc, then yeh, ... I'm not gonna be having many conversations with such a person, but if you're just being silly and feeling a bit chuffed 'cause you did a good thing, what the hell; it's all gravy, and I'd say that's a normal feeling. We all probably get a warm, fuzzy feeling, whenever we do a good deed.

I'm not a fan of someone going out of their way to show-off their deed, making a huge deal about it, practically screaming "LOOK AT ME - I'm so awesome, because I did this", as, honestly, it seems a little self-absorbed, and even if it's unintentional, it can certainly come off that way. If you look hard enough on Facebook, you're bound to find someone who made a group all about this thing they did, and asks for likes, shares, etc; this is the sort of self-absorbed, insecure nonsense for which I don't care.

I suppose the whole thing can be a grey area, which is probably why people end up being so modest! xD I'd prefer to be modest, than have people thinking all sorts of nasty things about me.

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The difference between someone who is and isn't a hero, in my honest opinion, is why they do good deed. Doing them because you want to be thought of as a hero and not because you truly care about the person/people/animals you're helping is different than doing them because you truly want to help the person/people/animals.
^ I completely agree with that point.
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Old Sep 11, 2013, 07:47 AM
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An heroic act is still an heroic act. If one goes on too much in a boastful way it will overshadow the deed. If they tell people in the right way it not only inspires some but also restores faith. Many of us are wanting and waiting to see good in this world.
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Old Sep 11, 2013, 03:00 PM
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Thanks for the rescue!

I think you can recognize you are truly a hero, but I don't think it's appropriate to brag about it. Let someone else toot your horn!
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