[Citrine]

Oh dear here I go again. After 4 months of my new HM Ive had enough.

My landlord actually posted an ad on a big house share website stating he wanted a female min age 35 max 60, working, must like animals. It seemed like hed written in especially for me right? well yep... but who did he accept in the end? a 72 yo man, who thinks hes younger (kinda thinks he a bit smooth and suave actually) recently divorced, doesnt like animals (he cringes at my beloved cat as he walks past) doesnt work, spends most of his time around the house, cant clean (his ex wife never taught him)

Out of 4 possibles, 3 of which I never saw anyway, as landlord was doing the 1st interview with them and if he liked them theyd get to 2nd which meant Id then choose. Yet he gave me no choice. He dismissed a young woman with cats (tbh, that would have been difficult with my lion cub in residence) a mid thirties building contarctor (these guys are great, out at work, shower and out to pub) and a 30 yo asian IT genius Either of these guys would have been perfect...

I didnt like him from the minute I saw him. I sensed arrogance and saw kiss assing with the landlord yet I felt Id be a bad person if I said no to a person needing a home. I told him based on the last housemate a clean home was a priority and my landlord agreed with me. I asked all he did was hoover the stairs every week and leave everywhere as he found it and Id do the rest. He agreed. The first few days he didnt realise he had to buy washing up liquid or cloths and didnt even think about washing powder or binbags. He look put out when I said he couldnt use my eco (flippin pricey) things. Time goes on and hes just not my sort of person.

He is very very into his cult like religion ( Im not trying to offend anyone just stating a fact) and Ive heard some astounding nonsense. Hes into some spooky stuff. I find him creepy. He stands too close to me (or did as I now avoid him) doesnt circumnavigate me through doors or tight spaces. He would launch himself out of his room when he heard me come out of mine. He would come downstairs and watch me cook and clean up, just standing in the doorway.He even sometimes would say (in his arrogant very english accent) looking very clean in here, very good (like Im his beepin wife/ cleaner!!)He started asking me when Im in or out which I TOTALLY object to.

Little by little I found him intrusive and under my feet but most of all creepy. Maybe its partly because I had some experiences of older men when I was child (abuse) but a friend met him and said she thinks its also- he is just a bit slimy too. We are so mismatched and he now wont even hoover.

I dont feel comfortable in my pjs or a tshirt as he feels like hes eyeing me over. It would be so nice to have a hard working gal like me who likes animals to live with. My landlord has mismatched us totally and I felt awkward like I should give it a go but now hes here....that it.

He has a gf now (quick work there) and he has her round alot. She s a bit odd. She laughs like a hyena all the time. She not quite the full shilling Im sure . They were having beep the other night...Plllleease...I dont want to hear it thanks.

Thats my rant, sorry to go on, bit fed up but I shouldnt be living with him should I.....

[Rose3]

What are your options? Can things be worked out with him - schedule about housecleaning, clear expectations about cleaning supplies/costs? The standing too close, intrusiveness, eyeing - how to go about changing this behaviour? About the girlfriend and their time together - maybe find a way to communicate to both of them that you can hear them (and it's disrupting your sleep). Hope you can sort through things. Or will he leave? Or will he change? Or will you leave? Or will you change?

[possum220]

You can either talk to your roomy........ Or have a chat with the Landlord, let him know what has happened. Maybe the landlord has other properties that might be better for you. Good Luck.

[radio_flyer]

Sounds like your roomy is a tad on the creepy side. And asking when you won't be home would make me even more suspicious of him..

Real bummer your landlord wasn't more "considerate" of renting to someone more compatible with you...

Only suggestion I have would be to have a chat with him. One idea would be to have a "monthly house" meeting to discuss problems and things that are upsetting to you. He can also bring up things that are upsetting to him.. And if everyone is willing to work on the problem areas maybe the living situation would be more pleasant. If not, looks like your in for a miserable time. If you don't get these issues addressed it will only fester inside and you will be the one with the "tummy aches".. Where he will be having a good ole time...........

Either way, it really isn't easy living with "strangers or even family". I hope you can work things out.

[Rose3]

Citrine was there first, so why should she have to leave?

[possum220]

Citrine shouldn't have to leave. Depends on what the Landlord has to say. I somehow don't think that Mr Creepy is going to volunteer to move though.

Please keep us updated Citrine.

[Citrine]

I have hardly seen him since I last posted. He and his gf kept me awake wed night through to thursday, doing beepbeep and going to his bathroom all night. Not happy!! I spoke to the guy next door, that house is also owned by same landlord. At around the same time of this new tenant applying there was also one needed for the 2nd room nextdoor. So both houses needed a new tenant at around the same time. I always wondered why the guy next door got the woman that is my age group, works and loves animals. I asked this guy nextdoor how come I have the tenant that matched your house and you have the tenant that is more suitable for my house, he smirked and said....I have been here longer than you. I went mad and got very angry. Did the landlord let the guy nextdoor who is a womaniser, have the female tenant of his choice??!!! and leave me with what was left. I used to joke and say we had got the wrong ones and we should swap, he alwys would say, no way hes not living here (but its ok for me to have him) I cant speak to any of them at the moment because Im so grrr with them all. Landlord included, though he hasnt been around for days. Im viewing another place in a few hours.....

[possum220]

How did you go with the new place Citrine? I wouldn't be putting up with that rubbish either. Hopefully if you can get in contact with the Landlord he may have another place. But maybe you are better making your own choices? Maybe put some unpleasant music on while they are "at it". ?

Or let yourself be angry and yell at mr and mrs creepy..

[Citrine]

I came away grateful for what I have. Which is a beautiful home though I share it with a wrong match. The new view was dreadful. The landlady was far too optimistic and unrealistic about what she was offering. She needs to look online for the type of places around that match what she wanted in rent. It wouldnt have mattered if it was 50 pence a week, the place stank of mould.

This guy here stays out of my way lately but Im pretty tired of his blasted gf being here. Shes here half the week and he puts the heating on from the minute she appears (landlord will not approve) Hes cooking for her while shes here, she will be moving in next! I feel pretty mean but this was meant to be a working female house! not 2 non working hanging around using the gas up! Theres plenty of places for him to go to.

I am most often in my room during the evening and the tv is on 20vol. When they are around its on 30vol

[possum220]

Sorry to here that the new place didn't work out but mould is never good. Its good that you are now able to appreciate where you are. Does the Landlord get to pay for the heating? That could be interesting.

I really do wish you the best for the future.......

[Citrine]

Oh yes most appreciative of this lovely home. Landlord pays all bills himself out of our 2 rents. He tries to b careful as gas and electricity are astronomical now. Im naturally a cold weather person so I dont need the heating on all the time. Eventually I wont want to keep up this situaion. Landlord mismatches and doesnt set house rules. This causes problems in the end and this is the 2nd tenant so far. If u match the genders/ types and put in the right rules then it should go fine. Being too free and easy and making it up as u go along doesnt work in the end. How hard can it b to find a hardworking home and animal loving gal like myself looking for a housemate? Umm not impossible..ones lives nextdoir..handed over to that tenant first. Great.

[martmart]

J ALSO HAVE PROBLEMS WITH H-MATES but U don't understand that here is a funny point of view in Your case.

if i describe my problems---u would laugh because they are not Your problems.

[Citrine]

Oh no I do see that from a distance they would be funny to someone else. I mean it does sound like a joke. A farce more like. I got woken up by his rather oddball gf at 06.45 the other morning...what was she doing? giggling... until she strains and sounds asthmatic. Something she does continuously with every sentence. Like a nervous laugh but its not. I was livid!!! Its my time off. She also goes to his bathroom constantly. Like when she comes in for around 20 mins then half an hour later then again. She bangs doors shut too. Shes erm a few scones short of a picnic if you know what I mean.

Weve had builders here for 3 days, sleeping overnight. They were most respectful wearing plastic shoe covers when walking through. Did he make them drinks and cook bacon butties? no. Did he clean up after they had driven off finally? no He watched me do it. Standing watching me brush the hard floors downstairs, wouldnt enter his head to say `I will hoover the stairs' I beepin loathe him. Personally I think hes using passive aggressive tactics to drive me mad. He changed the cutlery around in the drawer, thinking that if Im OCD it will drive me nuts..no actually it didnt..its not one of my obs.
Basically hes a cheeky ****. The audacity of him!

[possum220]

I do not laugh at Citrine's problems.

[Citrine]

An update:Well things just kept getting worse and since I last wrote his gf was staying here virtually all week (contracts say 1 night per week) They were coming in late waking me, keeping me awake with their chattering and her `habits' then getting up before my alarm goes off. They dont work, I have no idea what they do when they go out but if Im in work I will guess they will be staying in for the day once they get back mid morning. Her washing routines and door locking and pacing and the hysterical chattering laugh were driving me to nearly rip my hair out shes the last thing I need after a busy day and I had resolved to remove her from the house myself by force I had already got out of bed and shouted about this stupid chain swinging against the door. I work damn hard, mentally and am so utterly respectful of peoples lives and privacy no way was I putting up with this ludicrous relationship from these 2 non working 88888 no way. This is not, by contract, a couples allowed house.Nor a non working house. I was seething but having had a chat with the nice female tenant nextdoor she convinced me not to be rash as the police could end up round. Instead my landlord came today and I told him...and I mean told him. They came back at 6pm I was livid yet another evening of her noise unyet...she left at 9pm (he drives her everywhere and she cant put her own shoes or socks on, not because shes older, its because shes not her 60 years in mental age) Im hoping my llord did do as he said...he said he wasnt having it it was not on at all and he was sorting it. TBH Id rather have had it out with the HM myself as its more honest. I so tired of this renting lark, it is too hard for me. I cant deal with people. People push it, take advantage and then I flip. Im still looking for a new working female only house as this creepy 8888888 is here for good. I told my landlord...`u do realise this is now a retirement home dont u..now hes here to stay' Soo disappointed in people...again.

[possum220]

Did he (the landlord) tell you how he was going to be sorting it out? Given that you were on the premises first does this give you any advantage? Sorry to hear that this seems to be deteriorating for you. Wish I could help you.

I dont know how hard it is to evict tenants where you live. It can take months where I live. Maybe your landlord can issue some kind of formal warning? Silly him for thinking he was being smart.

Why can't you have a chat with your housemate? (When she is out of the house - and why cant they go to her place sometimes?)

Thinking of you.