[Fuzzybear]

Are you a "clinger", a "distancer" or both with the same person or both with different people, or somewhere in between and why?
still working on my reply

[waiting4]

Fuzzy, I was a 'clinger'. Now I'm all about the distance. It's safer that way.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Distance for me. I've never been clingy, though for some reason I attract people that are very clingy...

Interesting thread by the way.

[healingme4me]

When I was a teen, early adult, I found myself clinging. Felt I would distance in college (same person) , but clung instead.

Otherwise, I distance. Withdrawal as opposed to pushing away.

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[-jimi-]

I sometimes need people close but that is rarely so no one ever notices! Because I often need distance, other people act clingy on me. So seemingly I'm never clingy, never have to be.

[SeekerOfLife]

Intetesting question. I am sort of clingy. At least that is how I want to be. On the other hand I often find myself at a distance from others, but I dont want that distance. I seem to be the opposite of what I want .

I guess I meant I am not as close to others as I would like to be. The distance I perceive is not what I want, but due to emotional issues I seem to isolate myself. I want to be more sociable, but struggle in so many areas that it takes up so much time just to take care of myself.

Fuzzy, I am really not sure what you were pondering, but that is my understanding of it. Sorry if I did not "get it" . .

[Grey Matter]

I have never been clingy. I am affectionate with certain people, yes. But I keep my distance with most.

[buzz bee]

Im clingy I guess. I dont hang on people type of cling. Im painfully shy at first.
I will distance myself if Im alone for awhile till I warm up. If Im with my husband or friend I hang with them. So I guess my personality type is more clingy.

[PoorPrincess]

Never been clingy; perhaps a middle of the road distancer.
(I am unsure, Fuzzy, if you are referring to 'in a couple' relationship specifically, or more broadly in terms of people in general.)

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Are you a "clinger", a "distancer" or both with the same person or both with different people, or somewhere in between and why?
still working on my reply

Both with the same person

[nummy]

I want to be clingy but find I get overwhelmed easily by that, so then I keep distant. It's a lack if trust thing. I never can trust how others perceive me, making me not trust them, either.

[glok]

I am not a clinger ..... static free.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Are you a "clinger", a "distancer" or both with the same person or both with different people, or somewhere in between and why?
still working on my reply

Hello, Fuzzybear! I like to say I am a healthy distance from other people. I do admit I do not like people other than family to get too close to me physically. ((((Fuzzybear)))) virtual hugs are ok.

[(JD)]

Not fair to not answer fuzzbutt!

I'd like to think I'm close to healthy normal in that I am independent and can live on my own, but having someone to cling to once in a while might be good?

[glok]

Most days, a ten foot pole is not long enough.

[buzz bee]

Originally Posted by glok

Most days, a ten foot pole is not long enough.

Your on a Roll! My type of personality. You and I would get along just fine. I have a sense of humor too.

[lizardlady]

In my teens and early twenties I was a clinger. It was unhealthy. I defined myself in terms of the relationsip with that other person.

Today I would say I'm neither clingy or a distancer. Let me clarify.... I no longer define myself in terms of another person or my relationship with another person. Distance depends on the relationship we are talking about. I suppose I am "distant" with people I do not have an emotional attachment to, but I think that's "normal."

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Bit of a "distancer", although I may have touched on clingy, years ago. Why? Um... I'unno...

[ifst5]

Big ol' distancer. Though either state isn't ideal.

[sarahblue]

I keep my distance from people for fear of being clingy. Does this make sense? I always worry with friends that if I call or want to do things that I will bother them. I come off as independent but I'm really not. I guess I worry too much what people will think of me.