[AngstyLady]

I wish people didnt judge others. I guess its a social development, for what cause, I don't know. Perhaps in terms of judging whether another poses as a danger/threat, I can understand. But when it comes to judging others because they'reyounger than you (or look younger) it's a bit silly.
Take me for instance, I know I have a baby face, but did not know until recently that most people thought/think I look about 20-23, some say as old as 26, and others as young as 18 (I'm 31) and this is even from those younger than me! lol. So I am now understanding people more- It's funny- I get prejudged by others who are my age who think I'm much younger who think I'm some young dumb thing who knows nothing about life (which couldn't be FURTHER from the truth!) - but even if I was say, 20 years old, who is anyone to judge me for it? You don't know my life story, I may be wise beyond my years. Granted, there are a lot of young adults who THINK they know everything, but you should'nt assume as much of someone simply based on their age.
Same goes for older folks. It's always irked me to no end how some people have no respect for their elders and expect/assume a person is feeble just because they look to be beyond a certain age. Or the ones who automatically talk to them as if their a baby- they have all been where you are now- don't disrespect them by treating them as such. Anyway, that's my rant, I'm actually in a better mood now, actually have been in a great mood for most of the day and the past few days, just thought that was a topic worth discussing . . .

[Travelinglady]

I agree. It seems we have a built-in mechanism that helps us make decisions about people and how we supposed to respond to them. I am about the size of a 12 year old and that gets interesting responses. But I am now getting to be a older woman, so I am beginning to be put into the "little old lady" category.

I know there's even some social-psychological research about how people respond to folks with baby faces.

I try to use my higher cognitive processes after I might have a gut-response to someone. Stereotyping can certainly do us all a disservice.

[AngstyLady]

Yes, I have always had a vast amount of patience, and have been told by many different aquaintances and some strangers that I have 'the patience of an angel," but on occasion this does wear thin, usually when I'm sleep deprived, but yes, it can be frustrating at times (thinking of other situations now beyond this).

[bcohen141]

I am concerned and worried about.. AGEISM... because I am unemployed, and I cant seem to get a job back as a graphic artist .... Seems, employers have the pick of all these young kids, why should they hire an older more expensive job candidate? So, I am facing AGE discrimination. and I am WORRIED...

[Timgt5]

Unfortunately making judgments is built in to our DNA, all animals in order to survive have to be able to distinguish what is dangerous from what is safe. Despite all of our advances in culture, that fundamental instinct remains, our brains our designed to categorize things quickly as part of our cognitive processing.

I think Western society has made great strides in reducing discrimination through cultural practice and laws passed but these things do not necessarily re-wire our minds, so discrimination remains, no matter how we might consciously try to suppress it from our actions.

The best we can do is slow our thought process down, be aware that we are not applying rational thinking when we make "snap judgments" and consciously remap the encounter with a particular person or group into more logical inner dialogue.

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by AngstyLady

I wish people didnt judge others. I guess its a social development, for what cause, I don't know. Perhaps in terms of judging whether another poses as a danger/threat, I can understand. But when it comes to judging others because they'reyounger than you (or look younger) it's a bit silly.
Take me for instance, I know I have a baby face, but did not know until recently that most people thought/think I look about 20-23, some say as old as 26, and others as young as 18 (I'm 31) and this is even from those younger than me! lol. So I am now understanding people more- It's funny- I get prejudged by others who are my age who think I'm much younger who think I'm some young dumb thing who knows nothing about life (which couldn't be FURTHER from the truth!) - but even if I was say, 20 years old, who is anyone to judge me for it? You don't know my life story, I may be wise beyond my years. Granted, there are a lot of young adults who THINK they know everything, but you should'nt assume as much of someone simply based on their age.
Same goes for older folks. It's always irked me to no end how some people have no respect for their elders and expect/assume a person is feeble just because they look to be beyond a certain age. Or the ones who automatically talk to them as if their a baby- they have all been where you are now- don't disrespect them by treating them as such. Anyway, that's my rant, I'm actually in a better mood now, actually have been in a great mood for most of the day and the past few days, just thought that was a topic worth discussing . . .

I sometimes hear stuff about how my generation or the current younger people than that are the worst yet, all thinking we're entitled to stuff we aren't and i don't get it most people I know around my age 25, and younger but over 18 are doing their best just to get by and have pretty damn good attitudes considering their circumstances. So I don't get all the crap talk...maybe there are some bratty younger people but don't we have those every generation or whatever? But yeah it kind of annoys me when people assume negative things because you're under 30....

But yeah I look younger than 25 so I always get id'd for beer and cigarettes but then even once people know I am 25 they still seem to treat me younger just because I look like i am...guess its hard for them to make sense of or something.

[Jan1212]

Yea my dad said that my brain isn't developed when I was 18 , and doesn't process things clearly because I was 20, and that I won't understand adult situations because I'm not 30. That I will have the knowledge that he has by the time I'm 40years old. He's wise but some of the things he says makes me giggle.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

You can't giggle properly until you 50.

[tokiwartooth]

People seem shocked at the fact that I'm unmarried, haven't had a relationship in 10 years, and I have no kids. I'm 31 and I guess I'm supposed to have met and married a guy and popped a few kids out by now. But people say I do look younger than I am. Most people put me between 24-26. I was actually carded in a restaurant not long ago. I haven't been carded in forever. I've already got a few gray hairs and fine lines, but I guess I still look younger.

[AngstyLady]

Originally Posted by tokiwartooth

People seem shocked at the fact that I'm unmarried, haven't had a relationship in 10 years, and I have no kids. I'm 31 and I guess I'm supposed to have met and married a guy and popped a few kids out by now. But people say I do look younger than I am. Most people put me between 24-26. I was actually carded in a restaurant not long ago. I haven't been carded in forever. I've already got a few gray hairs and fine lines, but I guess I still look younger.

I can totally relate to that, people think that by a certain age you should be 'established' in your career, and especially as a woman you need to have a few kids, or at least one by a certain age. Its ********, there's so much more to life than that.

[cool09]

It always boggles my mind that children are taught from a young age to respect all people and not judge but adults are the worst offenders of this. Not all adults - there are people who practice what they were taught as youngsters. The Media plays a huge part in influencing standards, norms and trends, unfortunately.

[AngstyLady]

So flipping true! I was going to post something about this but thought I'd jut add on to this- (I actually forgot about this pot it's been a while since I logged in) I really am feeling a change in me- while I'm still a nice person, I feel like I'm slowly turning into one with a short fuse- been effed with too many times. There;s only so many times you can turn the other cheek and be the better person before you start snapping at beaches and azz wholes and calling them on their bull.

On another note, I really hate to be censored. I wish here were a separate forum for those over 18 so we didn't have to be censored, it all bs to me, infringes on our basic rights of form of expression- don't get me started on the FCC, . . .