[lizardlady]

Today makes 16 years since hubby died. His accident was on the 9th. His heart gave out on the 11th.

Things were not good toward the end of the marriage. He'd become abusive. Still I miss him. Every year starting about mid-July I start going into a blue funk. Usually I start worrying that my depression is worsening, then I look at a calendar and realize it's the grief beast come to visit.

I've had some pleasant dreams about him the last few weeks. I guess that's a sign I'm finally starting to heal.

A friend called a little while ago to check on how I was. He calls every year without fail.

I'm feeling kind of melancholy folks. Could I have some hugs?

[Nammu]

Free hugs for you anytime Liz.

Not just hugs, but a pizza, some wine, a cake, a kitten, some fluffy bunnies and a clown hat.

[SilverNeurotic]

I'm very sorry. I'll give you 100 hugs.

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[Unrigged64072835]

Lots of hugs.

[mugwort2]

Liz You deserve the biggest bear hugs. Here is it BIG BEAR HUGS from me!!! Plus everything else that makes you happy

[healingme4me]

"Interrogate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West

[Sabrina]

My thoughts are with you Lizard

Liz,

I'm so sorry for your loss; my thoughts and prayers are with you.

This past January marked the 27th anniversary of my father's passing, and I also get melancholy every anniversary.

I wish I had a way to take your pain away, but I don't. However, I'll leave you with a few words: The pain never goes away. You can move, get re-married, get a new job, whatever, but the pain never goes away. And that's a good thing. It's a good thing because it makes sure you won't forget, and you don't want to forget him, do you?

[Artchic528]

∞ x

[Chyialee]

Enormous gentle hugs, Liz.
Been seven yrs for me.
Every yr in May I get sad, usually the week before Memorial Day. He passed on June 7, right before Father's Day -- the following month is our Anniv. So yeah, I haz a sad every summer for several weeks.

Agree with "also wine, cake, and lotsa other great stuff.."

*hug hug hug, pat pat pat*
also, *snif*

xo

Chyia, when does this stuff quit?

[guilloche]

(((LizardLady))) - lots of hugs for you. I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the continuing grief that you deal with every year.

[lizardlady]

Thanks everyone.

Kindness is right, the pain never goes away completely. It fades, but never goes away. I've learned over time that acknowledging what I'm feeling helps. It doesn't make the pain go away, but it helps me deal with it.

from me to you. I am so sorry for your loss and traumas.

[*Laurie*]

I'm so sorry, Liz. I'm glad you've had good dreams about him lately. I think that's a healthy sign, too. (((HUGS)))

[random_emotion]

[Pikku Myy]

Aweeee... super snuggles to you lizard.

[Fresia]

My heart is with you Liz. Sending big hugs.

[Yours_Truly]

Sending you more hugs

[Douglas MacNeill]

Originally Posted by lizardlady

Today makes 16 years since hubby died. His accident was on the 9th. His heart gave out on the 11th.

Things were not good toward the end of the marriage. He'd become abusive. Still I miss him. Every year starting about mid-July I start going into a blue funk. Usually I start worrying that my depression is worsening, then I look at a calendar and realize it's the grief beast come to visit.

I've had some pleasant dreams about him the last few weeks. I guess that's a sign I'm finally starting to heal.

A friend called a little while ago to check on how I was. He calls every year without fail.

I'm feeling kind of melancholy folks. Could I have some hugs?

I can offer you a warm clasp around the shoulders; one of my traits (or is it my faults?) is that I don't respond well to being hugged by a complete stranger.

[Smileonmyface]

warm hugs to you.

[CloverandCrimson]

A big bear hug to you.

[Travelinglady]

liz, here's a big hug for you:

I am glad you are healing from the loss and abuse.

[Yoda]