Bf's mom is a bi&$@. Or am I over reacting?

So a little background first. My bf and I have been together for almost two years and I've only met his mom a handful of times because she is known to be a bi&$!, most of the time. And one day she'll be nice to me, the next she's turned into the total opposite.

Well today is my bf's birthday so I planned to spend the whole day with him. We picked up his son from school, got lunch. And then went to his moms (where his son is staying right now). She called my bf to make sure the boy was working on his homework ect. He told her I was there helping and since he was next to me, I could hear her say "you know I don't like people in my house!" He didn't even stick up for me. By the time he hung up the phone, I was in tears. I'm very hurt. I'm also super sensitive today. Crying a lot and his mom made my day worst. So I had him take me home. So much for spending the day together. And he wouldn't even stick up for me. He said himself I'm being dumb.

Did I over react by getting so upset? He says I'm over reacting and he ignored my crying. I just find it so hurtful to hear someone, who someday will be my mother in law, say "I do t want other people in my house since I was there". I'm an emotion wreck now. And very pissed.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
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you have every right to feel hurt, pissed off, and even resentful - not just to her but your BF.

I would ignore her and go on with my life.

Omg omg omg I just messed up bad. I texted my bf how upset I was that his mom treats me like this. And I'm sick of it blah blah. Well guess who I accidentally sent that too? His mom!!!! I hurry up and blocked her so she would ***** me out or something lol. I'm so embarrassed. I think it's safe to say that this day sucks.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Seroquel 300mgs
Lamictal titrating at 50mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 50mg PRN

I don't think you're overreacting, she had no reason to be so disrespectful.
it's good that you let your bf know how you felt, but maybe the crying stressed him out too?
he should have stuck up for you regardless but to be fair he's not in the easiest position either - in the middle of the two women he cares about the most.
completely wrong of him to say that remark though, but probably was a reaction to him being stressed out (doesn't excuse it, but could be the reason for it)

sorry to hear about the txt (i do clumsy stuff like this all the time too! lol) but it could be a blessing in disguise, because rather than carry on like this, it would be better to get it all out in the open as the longer it's left like this, the worse it could get.

maybe if you phoned her directly and apologize for the txt and if it offended her? (i know it should be her apologizing instead of you, but you sound like a bigger person than her and its a small sacrifice to make for your relationship)
maybe meet up for a coffee and just politely talk it out, let her know how much you care for her son and grandson.
hopefully she appreciates that and I think she would.

hope things get better for you guys, I'm sure they will.

also - my birthday today too! ...on that basis, i bet your bf is an awesome guy! LOL (joking!)
'number 23' and libras' ftw!

Well, "overreacting" or not, your feelings WERE HURT! Maaaaybe she didn't mean anything personal by it, or maybe it wasn't "that big of a deal" but the fact remains that he should've been more sensitive to your feelings! Your pain is real to you even if he doesn't see a reason for it. And I don't think he should've been so dismissive of how that made you feel!

Thanx everyone. And happy bday goku!

I'm just a crying mess now. She's the kind of person who refuses to apologize so I'm not expecting that anytime soon. I think it's best to keep my distance from her. Even when I am around her, she won't even look at me or talk to me. Very uncomfortable. It's just a shame because I lost my mom at a young age and I was hoping for a wonderful mother in law some day. But thats obviously that's out the door!

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Seroquel 300mgs
Lamictal titrating at 75mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 50mg PRN

Ok I texted her back apologizing that I accidentally sent her the text. I know she's gatta be furious right now so I'm scared as hell of what she's going to say.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Seroquel 300mgs
Lamictal titrating at 75mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 50mg PRN

Well more drama went down over text between me and her after I apologized for sending the texts to the wrong person. She was a ***** about it and called me insecure and asked why. She always calls me this. So I politely told her, yea you would be to if you had PTSD like I do. I explained the beatings and verbal abuse, all in public most times. Hey, she asked! I told her how my mom passed when I was a kid so I'm nervous around her. I'm not good with ppls moms. She didn't reply back because the second she walked in the door, my boyfriend went off on her and let her know that I'm not like other girls. I don't do well with confrontation. He *****ed her out. For once. My eyes are still watering cuz I'm so pissed now. I think I'm just going to not bother with her again or go to her house. I don't need someone like that beating me down. Check out my sig, I have enough of myself beating me down.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Seroquel 300mgs
Lamictal titrating at 75mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 50mg PRN

In my experience no woman ever truly comes between a man and his birth family. Maybe it's my sorry luck, but I learned long ago never to expect a man to stick up for me against his family.

sorry to hear that, she truly does sound like a piece of work!
but at the very least, you know that your bf has your back and really does care for you.
it's probably worth it for that alone and hopefully you guys can build something special, or even more so.
credit to you for being the bigger person too, imo you've done your bit, hopefully she shows a bit of decency and common sense now and treats you more fairly.