[Nimitri]

Hi everybody, Nimitri here.

So after my last therapy in which I had made a lot of progress since my... well, lot of progress, my new homework is to make friends online. And I don't know how.

I'm in some forums, but honestly I mostly only look or just forgot about them eventually. Like in fantasy forums, writer forums and one of Magic the Gathering (the last one is a lie, honestly) and I'm not very fond of Facebook because I just lost so many conversations in half

So, I wanted to ask, How one makes friends in psychforum? When I look at some profiles, I see people following them, giving them wishes in their messages, putting images and I think giving them some companionship, but I'm baffled in how to do that or make some connection to anybody in the site. It had helped me a lot, but I just post in threads or read, and I'm a little daunted by the new project.

It's kind of hard and scary.

So... how are you? I'm fine. I'm reading two guilty pleasures (they are so bad for my tastes but I just read them) of Hell's gate by David Webber and 1632 by Eric Flinch. I just ended the magnificent book of Bands of Mourning by Brandon Sanderson and the piece of joy that it's Right Ho Jeeves by Johnathan Cecil and I'm reading the book of the City of Lies from L5R.

And watching youtube videos and following so many blogs on Tumblr.

Thank you for your time.

when it comes to making friends on the site, what i've found is (at least for me) if someone relates to your thread in some way, you just start talking and before you know it you're close friends on here.

for example

poster 1: i'm agoraphobic and hate summer

poster 2: oh yes, me too!. can we talk about it?

poster 1: sure

i think most of the friends i have on here are because of threads that either i or they have started. i hardly ever just message someone out the blue, unless they are either new, or they need extra support with something

[Nimitri]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

when it comes to making friends on the site, what i've found is (at least for me) if someone relates to your thread in some way, you just start talking and before you know it you're close friends on here.

for example

poster 1: i'm agoraphobic and hate summer

poster 2: oh yes, me too!. can we talk about it?

poster 1: sure

i think most of the friends i have on here are because of threads that either i or they have started. i hardly ever just message someone out the blue, unless they are either new, or they need extra support with something

Hi Shattered Sanity. I... honestly don't understand the answers in the post above. So I'm going to guess a little:

a) I have general anxiety disorder but I had become more tranquil after getting my medical exams ok, with excercise and doing mindfulness.

B) I guess are you talking about books. Brandon Sanderson, I honestly found him because I needed to study for my TOEFL exam and decided to get an audiobook that I wouldn't like to train my hearing, and I got mistborn. And what a surprise I got by getting my third favorite writer ever, whom I had read/listened to all his books with the exception of SteelHearth and Elantris. What do you think of Discworld?

3.- Would it be here about talking in the messages? I honestly don't know what I said to get this answer.

Hope you had a great night and be well.

Originally Posted by Nimitri

Hi Shattered Sanity. I... honestly don't understand the answers in the post above. So I'm going to guess a little:

a) I have general anxiety disorder but I had become more tranquil after getting my medical exams ok, with excercise and doing mindfulness.

B) I guess are you talking about books. Brandon Sanderson, I honestly found him because I needed to study for my TOEFL exam and decided to get an audiobook that I wouldn't like to train my hearing, and I got mistborn. And what a surprise I got by getting my third favorite writer ever, whom I had read/listened to all his books with the exception of SteelHearth and Elantris. What do you think of Discworld?

3.- Would it be here about talking in the messages? I honestly don't know what I said to get this answer.

Hope you had a great night and be well.

discworld isn't bad. terry pratchett has a great imagination (sorry, had, a great imagination) it's ashame that we lost him.

perhaps you can start by making more threads and talking about your issues, so that people can possibly relate and start talking to you

[lizardlady]

Hi Nimitri. Welcome to PC.

I found making friends online is very similar to making friends in 3D. Someone mentions a topic I'm interested in (or I mention something they are interested in). We have some back and forth discussion about that topic. On of us brings up a different topic and we discuss that. Eventually we start finding interests in common and start to develop a friendship.

You mentioned you like to read. There is a social group at PC that can be found here...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/group...oks-books.html

There's also a subforum within this forum for discussing books, movies, TV and music. Maybe that would interest you.

PC is HUGE with a ton of members. Why not poke around the forums and see what interests you? Then you can either start a thread (topic) or post to a thread that's already going.

Don't be discouraged if you don't make friends immediately. Again, just in 3D it takes time to get to know people.

Best of luck!

[Nix]

I don't have many friends here, but I do have a few and I always welcome more. I found that I got to know people through the chat different times I was there.

I've become friends with people in the main forums I frequent. One of those, for me, is the bipolar forum - I have bipolar so I automatically have things in common with others and we support each other. Starting a thread about how I'm doing gives others a chance to know me.

I've also made friends by visiting other forums, reading threads, and replying to give support.

Lastly, I've been a member for a long time. It takes time.

[Nix]

There are lots of people in the bipolar forum! Sometimes I wish my diagnosis didn't change to schizoaffective because that forum is much smaller! It's definitely true that finding people going through similar things is a good place to start.

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