[Yours_Truly]

Okay, all you better educated than me PCers. I've always had trouble with 'who' or 'whom'.

Here's the sentence I want to email today:

"You were one of four who(m) remembered."

I know 'whom' is supposed to be used generally after a preposition but, not always right? Which one is correct and, if you don't mind, could you explain to me why?

An aside: I'm contemplating on whether to leave the sentence out entirely... I want to convey the importance of their gesture, not sound pathetic like I'm having a pity party. Any thoughts are welcome. Thanks!

[leejosepho]

I often have the same trouble. Maybe this will help, and I think "they" and "them" (or "those") would be your test words:

Try substituting “he” or “she” and “him” or “her.” If “he” or “she” fits, you should use who. If “him” or “her” fits, you should use whom. Keep in mind that you may have to temporarily rearrange the sentence a bit while you test it...

https://www.grammarly.com/blog/who-v...u-might-think/

So in your case, I think it would be "You were one of four (among them/those) who remembered."

[Yours_Truly]

Thanks leejoseph! That is very helpful. I like the grammarly site also. Somehow I don't have it bookmarked.