[ace333]

i have been going through alot of things lately. too many emotions and thoughts. a breakup i don't want. and all the advise i keep getting from people is to do me, do what i like. but i literally don't know what i like doing. i have no passions about anything. the closest thing is art, and i can't motivate myself to do anything with it. i mean there's things i like, and i try new things, but nothing has ever stood to me my entire life as to what i should do. no passion, no drive, no real hobbies. i have no career goals. absolutely nothing stands out to me. so how can someone like me find their passion or their calling

[ncrust]

The true purpose of life is to understand what makes your life miserable and free yourself from it. This happens when you look inside yourself. There you will see, pride, lust, greed, love for power, gluttony, hatred, selfishness, inability to forgive and inability to love people. We need to find the way to free ourselves from these things.

It sounds like your relationship was a huge part of your life, and I'm sorry you have to endure that loss.

Now is time to discover yourself though, who you are and what you want out of life. You may want to see a therapist to help you through this process of getting to know yourself, or you could take the self-help route and read some helpful books. Perhaps you could write a list of activities you'd like to try and try them at your own pace.

One thing I would definitely recommend is exercise. It is healthy for body and mind, and anyone can benefit from it.

[halus1]

If you've just gone through a breakup - now is not the time to be trying to work out what your feeling passionate about. Now is the time to just get over all the pain that you're feeling.

There'll be time enough to work out what you like after that - and if you're anything like me (hopefully you're not though ) - that will constantly change anyway.

[ace333]

I have actually had this issue my whole life. Even before this relationship, its like ive never been passionate about anything

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by ace333

I have actually had this issue my whole life. Even before this relationship, its like ive never been passionate about anything

What would your ideal life look like?

[ace333]

I dunno. Theres nothing its all blank. I just go day by day

I am 50 now and still don't know what I want to do when I grow up.

[treevoice]

It's okay to not know what you want. I've always struggled with that as well. I have interests, and get engrossed in projects for a while, but nothing has ever struck me as being my "passion". I think that we miss the point of purpose when we look for some *thing* that will bring passion to our lives. Rather than worrying about activities or careers, maybe you could try to connect with more people. You are going through a painful disconnection. This person was likely a huge part of your sense of purpose, and you're back to feeling that old disconnection from purpose again because of that loss. But that's your clue right there! I never found purpose till I found *my unique way* of helping people. We are hard wired social creatures, we exist to serve each other, and I think we find our truest passions when we find our way of working with the people around us in whatever form that takes - but people are the important piece of the puzzle, not any particular activity. I may be wrong, but that's what I've found in my experience. Wishing you peace and clarity. <3

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by ace333

I dunno. Theres nothing its all blank. I just go day by day

Why is that an issue?

You could start by finding movies, books and music you like. I stopped listening to music after teens then when I was single and alone I got back into it. You can listen free on youtube and Spotify.
I was just filling out a volunteer form and it asks if you are good at anything and I was a stuck! Because I used to be good at sports, teaching, pretty sociable and I enjoyed art. But in my relationship everything revolved around keeping my other half happy. I haven't had skilled jobs. I am not confident enough to help the elderly or help at childrens club. I just want something simple and not stressful.

[ace333]

Originally Posted by VernonJenkins

Why is that an issue?

Because i feel lile im just wasting my life

[VernonJenkins]

Originally Posted by ace333

Because i feel lile im just wasting my life

Hmm... Is that an issue of boredom?

[ace333]

Originally Posted by VernonJenkins

Hmm... Is that an issue of boredom?

Im not bored either, its hard to describe, like say i like going to concerts, but it doesnt inspire me to pick up an instrument or join a band....but its like that with everything