I'm not going to go into detail here too much ok at all.

Does anyone know how to deal with a codependent parent?

Long story short I'm adopted and brought to the US at age 4 along with my two brothers.

I was raised in an orphanage while my 2 brothers lived in a different oorphanage. Before this my oldest brother lived with my biological father who was an abusive alcholic among other things I will not go into mainly because I don't fully know.

My adoptive family before they met us was the stereotypical perfect loving happy family.

My brother abused my mom we all hurt each other and I have memories in my head I would rather not describe.

My brother who lived with my blood father has been gone for over 4 years now in the military we don't talk anymore.

My mom I believe has DPD I believe to the one's she is closest too her biolgical family… And she is codependent to me and my other blood brother.

How do I deal with this codependent part that's all I want to know right now please and thank you?

[healingme4me]

Be secure in what your needs/wants/expectations are and some kid gloved negotiation skills.

I never really had the chance to develop a healthier relationship with own mom. I was working on that before she passed away.

I was, in my mind, some extension of her inner wish to be less dependent. But she struggled with fears and doubts, once during a heart to heart she told me of self loathing. I thought, really? You?

A dependent personality is tough when they are your parent.

I'd recommend a therapist. One of my recommended books during that time from my therapist, was Who's Pulling Your Strings?.

Hope that helps some.

[Maven]

My mom was somewhat codependent and I was with her. No matter how much it gets on your nerves, don't let go of her. She loves you and I know you want your independence, and don't stop fighting for it, but give in to her sometimes, try not to snap, because she's lonely and one day, she'll be gone. I miss my mom.

Thanks guys.