[tryingtobeconstruct]

It's a lifelong story for me that people who are supposed to be my friends don't come through for me when I need them. Usually all I need is some very small favor, something that would only take a small amount of time and not require any risk or hard work.

In this case I need three coworkers to to send an email to my boss backing up what I say about a certain situation (I'll avoid details). It's not a contentious situation like a complaint. They're not going up against somebody in the organization. There's really no controversy. My boss just needs a paperwork trail so that she can make some changes to my timecard records.

I really need those changes. If I don't get them I might be fired. All I need are those emails.

I've asked three coworkers to send those emails. They're all three "friends" who I get along with very well. They all agree with me about the mistakes that were made in my timecard. They've all said they'll send the emails.

Let's see if they actually do it. I think one of them will, but we'll see about the other two.

My experience is that "friends" in this kind situation don't outright disagree with me or refuse, they just don't do it. I'm not a priority. It doesn't matter how many times I've been there for them, they don't see the need to be there for me. I'm just a blindspot.

I hope they come through for you. People in general tend to be a bit inconsiderate these days. If you’re a considerate person then you’re probably often annoyed by that. I’ve taken to pulling back a bit when it comes to being helpful...

[MickeyCheeky]

Let's hope for the best. In case, at least you'll know which people are trustworthy and which aren't...

[nouseforaname]

This isn't a small favor is it? It's a pretty big one, if it means you will get fired. Are these so called "friends" still friends after work? Do you all hang out on weekends or days off? I have never made friends at work, they are co-workers and only thing that matters is that they do their job. I would never trust them for anything.

Not sure about your situation but maybe find another way to not lose your job.

[*Laurie*]

I feel you. I am the kind of person who puts myself WAY out there to help a friend. I make promises, I make commitments, and I keep them. When my turn comes (and I very rarely ask) - ha. Nobody's home, nobody will stand in my corner. I've become extremely distrustful of people. When I was young I was so open-hearted. Not anymore.
I wish the best for you.

[happysobercrafter]

How is this turning out? Did they send the emails you need? I hope so for your sake.

[Travelinglady]

I hope they do, too.

I hope they send the emails for you

[tryingtobeconstruct]

Our standings so far:

First guy: sent the email. Unfortunately, that email was useless because he apparently didn't understand what I needed. Now I'm afraid he won't agree to send what I need.

Second guy: he's the guy I expected and still expect will send the email. But he hasn't gotten to it. I wish he would get to it.

Third guy: nothing.

[*Laurie*]

Can you talk to the second guy again?