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Nov 19, 2018, 08:28 PM
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Long story short. Our older friend's son is coming to visit soon from Montana. HIS son is coming from Oklahoma to see HIM. He is bringing his girlfriend whom I have never met or talked to before. Friend's son asked me in a roundabout way if they could stay here. Ummm....no..because I do not know the girlfriend, number one, and I am not close enough to his son to have him overnight in my sanctuary. There ARE people in my life that I would welcome with open arms to stay, but they are in the inner sanctum of my life. Does anyone think I am being cold or callous?
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#2
Nov 19, 2018, 09:57 PM
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Do you think you're being cold and callous?
Don't worry about others, but what does yourself tell you. You have very valid reasons to deny the request. Others may be hurt as they may not understand, but if they respect you as a person and friend, I would hope they would find understanding. Everyone has their own ways of doing things, I think you have logical reasoning with not wanting a stranger to be in your house. While some may bring up, that you perhaps do not know the person in the sense to meet them first before writing them off - that may not be practical for this situation.
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Nov 20, 2018, 11:57 AM
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You are being wise. Unfortunately whwn I was married I opened my house to a couple then to the son of a lady I knew. Both huge mistakes & the one guy stole from us. Opened our house to one of our daughters friends & she went on vacation with us.....that turned out badly. Yes those were not just visiting people but after that experience I am very careful about who I let stay in my house.
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Nov 21, 2018, 08:10 PM
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I asked several other people today at work and they all said they would not agree to it, either. If I knew the girl it might be different.
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#5
Nov 21, 2018, 10:31 PM
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I don’t think you’re being selfish at all. It might be easier to come up with a polite excuse than to try and explain yourself. I find that people seem to prefer that versus I end up in a conflict when I tell people my real reasons. |
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Dec 07, 2018, 06:28 AM
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As it turns out...she was really nice. But, she is TERRIFIED of birds (?) and would not come into my house.
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#7
Dec 07, 2018, 07:06 AM
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I don't think you're being selfish, Medusax. Those are valid reason to refuse to let someone stay in your house. Anyway I'm glad things turned out ok in the end. Sending many hugs
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