would you tell someone that they smell?

Mar 15, 2019 at 06:29 AM

my latest poll question.

would you tell someone that they smell?

usually no

usually it's something that hits me later on when I'm on my own- I get the air freshener out and start to make the place smell normal again.

though on 2 ocasions I have told people

once because the woman was embarrassing me in class, and once because someone had been to the gym and she "asked" me to mention to her when she started to smell

Taylor27 · Mar 15, 2019 at 07:37 AM

Only if i knew them really well

TishaBuv · Mar 15, 2019 at 07:45 AM

My son had to work right next to someone who he said had such a stench that he was nauseous. I’m not sure if he said something, and if the guy showered, moved his desk, or still sits next to him.

seeminglyreal · Mar 15, 2019 at 08:20 AM

I'd say something but only if I knew them really well. Poor hygiene is my main pet peeve.

WishfulThinker66 · Mar 15, 2019 at 09:03 AM

It really depends. Is it the result of poor hygiene? (yes). Is it the result of stale cigarette smoke? (you bet absolutely) Or is it a result of cultural differences such as food? (definitely no, I would respect that)

Mar 15, 2019 at 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by TishaBuv

My son had to work right next to someone who he said had such a stench that he was nauseous. I’m not sure if he said something, and if the guy showered, moved his desk, or still sits next to him.

I feel bad for him

that would push me over the edge..

Mar 15, 2019 at 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66

It really depends. Is it the result of poor hygiene? (yes). Is it the result of stale cigarette smoke? (you bet absolutely) Or is it a result of cultural differences such as food? (definitely no, I would respect that)

I think that's a good aproach

romantic rose · Mar 15, 2019 at 02:32 PM

I cannot smell so no.

88Butterfly88 · Mar 15, 2019 at 03:40 PM

Depends on how well I know the person and what the situation is. If a good friend was going on a date or job interview for example I would tell them because I would want them to have a good outcome.

Mountaindewed · Mar 15, 2019 at 03:44 PM

There sometime is a bad smell at work and I’ll ask if it’s me and my coworkers will say no it’s not me.

So I hope people would be honest with me if I ask if I smell. I would be honest with them if they asked.

possum220 · Mar 15, 2019 at 11:02 PM

I was in the supermarket the other day. I walked past three people. I assumed two were parents and one was the daughter. The young female reeked. Actually pungent. Had to wonder if she struggled mentally or had physical issues. I wasn't my place to say anything.

If I had to live with that smell I would have to say something.

Mar 16, 2019 at 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by romantic rose

I cannot smell so no.

how come?

how does that work

(sorry, it's just me being curious)

sarahsweets · Mar 16, 2019 at 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66

It really depends. Is it the result of poor hygiene? (yes). Is it the result of stale cigarette smoke? (you bet absolutely) Or is it a result of cultural differences such as food? (definitely no, I would respect that)

I'm curious as to how you would address the cigarette smoke. You can't tell someone they cannot smoke on their own time or at their house or property right? If someone was wearing heavy perfume I would say something because heavy perfume bothers me. If someone had very bad hygiene I guess I'd have to weigh the importance of having someone in Barris them versus have me be comfortable. If it's cultural I definitely wouldn't say anything at

Psychstudent1 · Mar 22, 2019 at 04:34 AM

Politely, yes..

Buying them fragrances and personals can be a good way to indicate it too.

All depends on the person.
If they're sensitive, approach it sensitively.
If they are not, and a close friend, it's okay to be honest.

I mean it will help them out in the long run

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Taylor27 healing from trauma Member Since Dec 2017 Location: Alberta Posts: 30,442 (SuperPoster!) 6 24.4k hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 07:37 AM #2 Only if i knew them really well
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TishaBuv Legendary Member Since Dec 2014 Location: USA Posts: 10,258 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,879 hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 07:45 AM #3 My son had to work right next to someone who he said had such a stench that he was nauseous. I’m not sure if he said something, and if the guy showered, moved his desk, or still sits next to him. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T
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seeminglyreal Member Member Since Oct 2013 Location: Everywhere Posts: 182 11 199 hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 08:20 AM #4 I'd say something but only if I knew them really well. Poor hygiene is my main pet peeve.
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WishfulThinker66 Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Canada Posts: 2,285 6 117 hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 09:03 AM #5 It really depends. Is it the result of poor hygiene? (yes). Is it the result of stale cigarette smoke? (you bet absolutely) Or is it a result of cultural differences such as food? (definitely no, I would respect that)
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romantic rose Member Member Since Jul 2018 Location: UK Posts: 220 6 55 hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 02:32 PM #8 I cannot smell so no.
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88Butterfly88 Moderator Community Support Team Member Since Dec 2015 Location: New Jersey Posts: 54,300 (SuperPoster!) 8 10.5k hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 03:40 PM #9 Depends on how well I know the person and what the situation is. If a good friend was going on a date or job interview for example I would tell them because I would want them to have a good outcome.
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Mountaindewed Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Where the sidewalk ends Posts: 38,825 (SuperPoster!) 8 9,778 hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 03:44 PM #10 There sometime is a bad smell at work and I’ll ask if it’s me and my coworkers will say no it’s not me. So I hope people would be honest with me if I ask if I smell. I would be honest with them if they asked. __________________ I'm Blue
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possum220 Legendary Member Since Jan 2009 Location: Uppa Gumtree West Posts: 19,416 (SuperPoster!) 15 8,002 hugs given	Mar 15, 2019 at 11:02 PM #11 I was in the supermarket the other day. I walked past three people. I assumed two were parents and one was the daughter. The young female reeked. Actually pungent. Had to wonder if she struggled mentally or had physical issues. I wasn't my place to say anything. If I had to live with that smell I would have to say something.
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Psychstudent1 Junior Member Member Since Mar 2019 Location: Hastings Posts: 13 5	Mar 22, 2019 at 04:34 AM #14 Politely, yes.. Buying them fragrances and personals can be a good way to indicate it too. All depends on the person. If they're sensitive, approach it sensitively. If they are not, and a close friend, it's okay to be honest. I mean it will help them out in the long run
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